I get so irritated when I talk to either my mom or my mother-in-law and they call my almost three-year-old daughter "girly." With my Mom I get to explain how my daughter has many facets to her personality and although she likes to wear dresses sometimes and jewelry that she's not what I'd label "girly." She beats up her older brother, loves playing with cars, squeals happily when she sees a bulldozer and has a miniature tyrannosaurus rex as her imaginary friend. However, I don't feel like I can lecture my mother-in-law the same way. Instead I gently steer her away from the baby doll presents (my daughter has dolls and plays with them sometimes but not as frequently as her stuffed animals), Disney Princess jewelry, etc. Anyway, I wonder if I'm overreacting. I just don't like hearing a label put on my daughter and "girly" just seems loaded with negative connotations for me. Can't she just be herself without the need to put a label on her? BTW, I got just as fired up when my Mom was saying my son was "all boy."
Group Owner of Moms with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome/Fibromyalgia