OT: I'm in a jam. Please help.

[Autumn22]

Ok, here is the is the situation and it's probably gonna be a long post.

I moved into this house with my mother, my 2 kids and my sister.  The rent is $790 a month and I pay $300 a month for my part.  I'm on cash assistance right now.  We moved here in september and signed a year lease.  Ever since I've moved here, it's been miserable.  My sister has stolen a lot of my things out of my room, had to have a lock installed, my mom tries to pick fights with me and tells me to find a new place to live all the time, I was told not to lock the door anymore because basically  my mom was too lazy to get my sister a key.  Um, no.  Many many other things too.  Like it was agreed upon that my mom wouldn't smoke in the house and she recently started to.

I got a call from a low income apartment place last week saying they have an apartment for me, and I decided to accept it.  This puts everyone in a sticky situation.  My mother said she talked to the landlord and he mentioned court.  We are both on the lease.  He never said I was responsible though.  When Mom told him I'm moving into a low income place, he told HER that she is responsible for paying the rent.  When I called to discuss things with him, he told me to talk to my mother because he was tired of explaining it... so all I have to go on is that I'm not being held responsible.  Mom will have to move too because she can't afford the $790 on her own.  A friend of mine said that my mom is basically like the primary, I'm just on there because I'm over 18.  He won't even talk to me about the lease or what's going on so I'm assuming that's correct?

I'm 7 months pregnant and this is just stressing me out SOOOOOOOO much. 

What should I do?

I feel terrible for moving but I HAVE TO.  It's very hostile here. :( AND she did tell me several times to find a new place to live.

[buzymamaof3]

Of course you are going to feel bad because you mom is giving you a guilt trip... but you have to do what is best for you and your family.  Meaning you and your kids and your unborn.  Don;t feel bad about that.  As for the landlord, I would call him back and tell him you need to know the details of what will happen if/when you move out.  If you are on the lease, I would assume that you are also responsible.  However, I was on a lease several years ago and talked to the landlord, I had to move because my bf at the time started getting abusive...anyway, he was understanding and let me out of it.

[Autumn22]

Quoting buzymamaof3:

Of course you are going to feel bad because you mom is giving you a guilt trip... but you have to do what is best for you and your family.  Meaning you and your kids and your unborn.  Don;t feel bad about that.  As for the landlord, I would call him back and tell him you need to know the details of what will happen if/when you move out.  If you are on the lease, I would assume that you are also responsible.  However, I was on a lease several years ago and talked to the landlord, I had to move because my bf at the time started getting abusive...anyway, he was understanding and let me out of it.

I'll actually probably go down to his office on monday with my Grandmother and talk with him.  Yeah, I'm a big baby.  lol.  I get verbally abused here and I just can't handle it.  I left my husband because of the abuse and then I come here just to recieve another form of it. :P It's not every day, but when it happens, it's bad.  I'm tired of getting cussed at... I'm tired of my mom saying things like, "No wonder Billy couldn't stand to live with you" and ugggh, but yeah, thanks.  I'll go in there on monday.

[Autumn22]

I just double checked in the lease and it says no smoking... and mom smokes in here... :) Point for me.

[SiloBennett]

If the landlord isn't going to give you a problem about it, then just GO. Don't look back and don't feel guilty. Your kids are your #1 priority right now, not anyone else.  They should never have to see or hear you being treated badly by your mother or sister.

[HiNeedNiki]

Just leave. Do it for your kid. Your mother is a grown woman and she'll have to figure things out.

I love my parents but can't let them see my daughter much (considering permanently) because they are too dysfunctional to be around. But I have to do what is best for my baby.

[kk_bella]

If your name is on the lease as a lessor or a cosigner, you will be responsible no matter what the landlord says. If he takes you to court, both you and your mom will be responsible for breaking the lease. If your mom was your co-signer, you will also be responsible. If your name is on the lease as an occupant, then you will likely not be held responsible for breaking the lease. That said, I think it is worth taking a hit on your credit to get out of that situation.

[happytexasCM]

Do a search for a tennant's rights organization in your area and see what your legal obligations are depending on whether you are tennant or an occupant.

You may end up taking a credit hit if you are breaking the lease, but it may be worth it.

[serenitywolf]

I understand your situation because my Father is abusive. I know its hard but you need to cut your mom out of your life. You don't need negitive people to bring you down. And you children don't need to be around that kind of enviroment. I'm sorry your going through a hard time. I'm recently going through a divorce and my father won't help me one bit. He went to my ex and told him he will give him money and a car and anything he needswhile he's going through this hard period in his life.