Honestly, just don't talk to her about it. It's not her child, it doesn't matter what she thinks. Start standing up for yourself now or it will be a never ending battle when you make a decision for your child(ren) that she doesn't agree with.
Hi Olivia, I am new to the group too. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
If other family have a problem with it, you have to take it with a grain of salt and remember that YOU are the parent. What YOU say goes. If your family doesn't like it, they're going to have to get used to it. Thankfully after I showed my mom what I know (the only person's opinion I was afraid would upset me), she is completely on board with no vaccines for my kids.
I haven't really told anyone else in our families. It's none of their business IMO.
Welcome! I'm always impressed when moms and dads think to research the vaccine decision before their babies are born. I wish I had been smart enough to do that. If you feel you MUST tell her, try to gather as much information as you can for her to read. You might also make a list of the reasons you are not vaccinating so you can have it in front of you when you talk with her. I hope if you tell her, she will respect your decision and maybe even start to change her views on it!
i suggest printing out the pamphlet available here, and carry copies with you to hand to nosy family members...it really is no ones business how you handle your child's heatlh..and the argument about your dh having his vaxes is moot, because the list of vaxes now is three times as long as back when your dh was vaxed..point that out as well, as NO safety studies have been done either, proving they are safe and effective..you should not have to spend time with anyone arguing this issue, tell them the info is readily available, thru websites their own drs use.
Just because one person is "fine" does not guarentee that your child will not react. My mother balked at the idea of us not vaxing for nearly 2 year. Now she is 100% on board. It takes time for some gp to understand that there is so much more information available and what was best practice 20-30 years ago is not now.
Quoting rishsticks:
My MIL constantly has it out for us now that she knows we don't vaccinate. I mean for the littlest, most trivial things she will make a vaccine comment. It's annoying.
For example, "She probably needs to have to shots before she goes and plays with other kids".
Ugh we have family that is the same way/said the same things. It gets so annoying!
- Do your research--CHECK
- Join the non vaxing group on CM--CHECK
- Get hubby on board--CHECK
- Tell MIL you'd have done the same thing 23 years ago when they had 7-8 vaccinations; now there are something like 32 and all kinds of new research if she'd like to go over it. Then ask her for all kinds of advice on other subjects and remind her what a great son she raised. :)
Saw this at the museum
- onl0121
on Jan. 28, 2013 at 10:59 AM