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So I totally understand, but c'mon!!?!?

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 1:35 PM
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..My son has health issues. Issues that for some reason the Doctors can not figure out. He just got out of the hospital Friday, and I have notice his oxygen going super low at night while asleep (we have an oxygen meter) It goes down as far as 85-86%. When I wake him up it goes to about 92-93 (his normal range)so I cant really take him to the ER. We dont go back to the DR until Thursday. And his DR is only in the office Tuesday and Thursday. So today the school held a muffins for mom day at the school. I ran into my family DR and after debating wether or not I should ask her, I did, because it was driving me nuts. I said hey Dr. (her name) I have a question for you, and she replied I sure hope its not a medical question, Im with my kids right now.! OKKK soooo I totally get that, I totally understand she is not at work, she is with her children and she wants to be left alone. But to me this is serious, its not like I was asking her to look at a broken ankle or anything. This is an ongoing issue for a year now. How would you have gone about the situation being me? How would you have reacted if your DR said that? I dont think she was wrong for feeling that way, but I just totally think she could have been more compassionate, KNOWING what we have been through and that he just got out of the hospital 3 days ago.
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charmgirl
by Member on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:10 PM

I wouldnt be comfortable with that response. I want a doctor that is compassionate about their job. A doctor job is not like something that you can just turn on and off. I understand that people want to spend time with their family too, but  why is she only in the office 2 days of the week!>?

Texan1993
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:20 PM

I would find a different doctor NOW! I would not put up with that crap from my doctor or my kids doctor. They are doctors-their first concern SHOULD be to their patients then to their family. Good luck! 

AMsMommy212
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:34 PM

Unless the Dr. and I had a personal friendship, I wouldnt have approached her about the issue. My personal Dr does duty in the hospital so she is also only available during restricted hours, but I keep her because I like her. I would reccommend looking into a new dr. if you want one that is more available to you and your son. Aiden's ped is always available during office hours (which include Saturdays) and can usually get him in in the same day if I call before 12. He has asthma and when he gets sick it progresses REALLY fast, so I like knowing his dr is available when I need a little reasurrance.

Good luck, though, I hope they figure out whats causing his drop in O2 levels. 

Mommyof2n0308
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:39 PM


Quoting AMsMommy212:

Unless the Dr. and I had a personal friendship, I wouldnt have approached her about the issue. My personal Dr does duty in the hospital so she is also only available during restricted hours, but I keep her because I like her. I would reccommend looking into a new dr. if you want one that is more available to you and your son. Aiden's ped is always available during office hours (which include Saturdays) and can usually get him in in the same day if I call before 12. He has asthma and when he gets sick it progresses REALLY fast, so I like knowing his dr is available when I need a little reasurrance.

Good luck, though, I hope they figure out whats causing his drop in O2 levels. 


yes! my son has asthma also. We have a pediatrician but its so far away. So like when he was hospitalized I had to bring him to our local hospital and they would trasnfer him. So then we couldnt see our peditrician or our asthma specialist or our pulmonologist. We have soo many DRs that I could see rather than her, but they are all far away, which makes it hard to put a baby with an asthma attack in the back seat of my car.

CHDMommy3
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:39 PM

My son has health issues that include SPO levels as well and if his doctor ever made me feel like I was bothering him I would fina another doctor.

I do understand she was with her children but a quick "sure can I answer it quickly or if you need more time please contact my office" would have been a bit more soothing then a brush off.

If her overall care for your child you are pleased with then maybe let this time slide but if she makes you feel like you cannot go to her for the slightest of things then I suggest looking for another one.

My ped and his office staff recognize my voice lol that is how comfortable I feel to call for even the little things.  And my son's cardiologist has me down like clock work I begin to call with worries about a week or two before his apt. so he reassures me but if my fear still persists then he fits us in.

Mother's intuition is best in this matter...... if you feel like there is truly an issue to be lookied into then there is.  This is your child, she is providing a health service to you and owes it to you to provide it at her best ability and you and your child deserve to feel heard.

CHDMommy3
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:45 PM


Quoting Mommyof2n0308:

 

Quoting AMsMommy212:

Unless the Dr. and I had a personal friendship, I wouldnt have approached her about the issue. My personal Dr does duty in the hospital so she is also only available during restricted hours, but I keep her because I like her. I would reccommend looking into a new dr. if you want one that is more available to you and your son. Aiden's ped is always available during office hours (which include Saturdays) and can usually get him in in the same day if I call before 12. He has asthma and when he gets sick it progresses REALLY fast, so I like knowing his dr is available when I need a little reasurrance.

Good luck, though, I hope they figure out whats causing his drop in O2 levels. 


yes! my son has asthma also. We have a pediatrician but its so far away. So like when he was hospitalized I had to bring him to our local hospital and they would trasnfer him. So then we couldnt see our peditrician or our asthma specialist or our pulmonologist. We have soo many DRs that I could see rather than her, but they are all far away, which makes it hard to put a baby with an asthma attack in the back seat of my car.

My doctor always suggested that if the situation is critical and you cannot be safe or console your child in need such as during a drive to the hospital while having an attack......my son gets croup all the time and I know the panic of a child not breathing well and you trying to drive, so he said....... call the emergency let the paramedics come so you can sit with the child at home and not risking an accident and they more then likely would be there before you would even be at the hospital if you drove.


Mell-belle
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:46 PM

I can completely understand where your doctor was coming from. Although, if I were you I would still get a different doctor. Not because of the comment she made, but because your son has ongoing medical issues that your doctor isn't figuring out why? And it has to do with his oxygen levels? And your doctor is only available 2 days a week? So, i think I would find a doctor that was available more often. And I don't know if this helps, but my nephew had sleep apnea, and they told us that it is totally normal for the oxygen levels to dip lower while they are sleeping then while they are awake. Something about our bodies not needing as much oxygen while sleeping vs. being awake and active. But I don't know your son's med issues, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

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CarlyK82
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 2:49 PM

Granted, I would've been slightly peeved as well with the Doctor's response, but you also need to remember, that doctor's are people as well. Put yourself in the doctor's shoes. I'm sure that their time may be even more limited, so any time that they could spend with their child they may like to without having to be a doctor first and foremost.

I think a lot of it has to do with the different personality & caregiving styles of the doctor. If you are looking for a doctor that was more accessible, then you should really find a new one. Also, you say that this has been an on-going issue for a year, so asking about the question at that time wasn't really a good time.

I'm not trying to sound like a meanie here, but just try to put yourself in the other shoes. I know that I would get mad if I was trying to spend time with my kids and someone came up to me and asked me something about my job while I was trying to be with my children.

Are you able to call the office and speak with an office nurse or another doctor on call when yours is not in the office on Tuesday or Thursday?

Again, I'm not trying to sound mean, but that's just my take on it.

ProudSingleMum
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 4:42 PM

I wouldn't have approached her when she was with her kids...I would have called when she was int he office to see if she could weigh in.

I'm sure it sucked for you to have her react that way...but really...would you want  to be interrupted when you were with your kids (knowing it could happen EVERY SINGLE TIME you were out, maybe even multiple times....that would suck)

calgalmeg
by on Jan. 25, 2010 at 5:35 PM

Agreed- knowing that your son has just gotten out of the hospital and has severe health issues she should have taken the time to at least hear your question- and if it was frivolous THEN say she'll talk to you at the office- and if it was serious to then talk about it.  

Quoting Texan1993:

I would find a different doctor NOW! I would not put up with that crap from my doctor or my kids doctor. They are doctors-their first concern SHOULD be to their patients then to their family. Good luck! 


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