Have we had a SIL vent yet?? HERE IT IS...lol

[Mommyof2n0308]

OKAY! I have no idea where to even start. My sister in law, drives me nuts. She is my brothers girlfriend, and they have my nephew Eyan who is 7 months. She is stupid, she is immature. She is mean to my daughter, and no matter how many times she I say something, she can not get it through her FREAKING HEAD. I can stand small dosed of her, but I have only seen her and my nephew once since christmas, which is irritating cause they live up the road with her parents, and she never brings him to see us. I text her and get ignores, I have seen her in walmart and she acts as of she doesnt know me.  My brother moved to Oklahoma last fall so he could get a job and get them down there to get on their feet. (and to get a break from her) He says she got pregnant on purpose and said she told him she was on the shot. She lies. She makes stupid stories up all the time. She told me a few weeks ago she is going to apply for section 8 and move to oklahoma in a few weeks thinking that she can go to a website snap her fingers and beable to live wehreever the hell she wants. So today I find out that my mom, who has told me no multiple times, is letting her and the baby move in with her til she finds a job and gets on her fet. She will be there 2 weeks with my brother, while my nephew stays here. My mom even told me, if you had someoen to keep your kids for 2 weeks I would let you, but she cant handle kids anymore. So mom claims they have one month to get a job, enroll in school, their own place, find daycare, ect, ect and two of it the baby wont even be there. I am sorry, and maybe there is something wrong with me but I am POSITIVE that I would NEVER leave my kid for TWO weeks. Yes I am a bit jealous that her and my mom seem to be like best friends and have a better relationshiop than my mom and I. but she is STUPID. I feel as if I Have to keep typing to get my point across..lol Soooo is it me or does she sound, stupid? Do You get along with your SIL? What kind of a relationship do you guys have?

[single_and_preg]

Oh wow, I dont have any SIL's but yeah she sounds irritating. Im surprised your mom is helping her so much. lol i cant even get my sons grandparents to keep him for a few hours.

[Sassy762]

 Okay Hun.....TECHNICALLY she isn't your SIL. So you should feel relieved a little about that.She is simply the girl that tricked your brother/got pregnant on purpose ( your words).

BUT I do understand your feelings about the way your mom treats her. She does more for her than she does for you.....I get this, went thru this with my mom and hated her for so many years. BUT after over 20 years......my mom finally told me why she did more for my SIL (actually was married to my brother) than me. It was very simple to my mom and she never felt like she had to explain it to me........My mom always knew I was Stronger in everyway compared to my SIL and if my mom hadn't help her.....god only knows what would have happened to the children.My brother passed away when the girlsd were only 5 & 6. Its a little different than  your situation but the intent with my mom sounds the same.   Ask her...I'm not defending your mom but I wasted 20 years hating her(my mom)  for something that I "thought" she was doing and I was so far off base.....

[calgalmeg]

OK she is clearly rude to you by ignoring you in multiple ways.  As for the move... why would your brother leave for so long and not see his kid?  I mean she may be miserable but by not seeing her he's not seeing his LO either.  If he's saying she lies and is manipulative then it sounds like things won't be working out- I'd stay out of it though and let him do all the complaining- your mom will think you're a trouble maker if you say anything especially if she likes this girl.

Personally my DS's BD has a half-sister the family pretends doesn't exist who I've never met... DD's BD has a brother who basically is the world's worst uncle, since DD was a year old he hasn't seen her (even though I did fly into the state out of my way just so the family could see her) or sent her a card or gift or anything.

[Mommyof2n0308]

yeah thats true, she isnt techinically my SIL.  WHEW! lol. My Grandma has said that before. When I was pregnant my brother said very mean things to me about hoping I lost the baby, and I was a fat ass, and my mom told me to grow up when it upset me. but if I mention that he is an alcoholic, she goes crazy and gets all pissy with me. My grandma says its because Mom knows Ill defend myself what have ya. My mom and I have talked about the whole brothers gf thing and I think thats what it is to. But Itd be nice if I had someone to fall back on. I am completely alone in KS, my son has been sick and in the hospital and I had to do it all by myself, with no emotional support or nothing, its really irritating. When my nephew was born my mom had to spend every waking moment with them in the hospital, when my son was born my whole family went to the casino while me and my son were at the hospital by ourselves a day after my dangerous csection, well of course we had nurses, but still!. I guess this is turning into a vent about my mom more than anything.  Regardless of why my mom is doing it I just wish she would stop and think about it. But of course everyone looks through different windows and sees different things. I dunno, but today it is driving me crazy, and I feel like calling MY BROTHERS GF...lol... to tell her how I feel!!

[mytrueloveS]

I don't have one yet, but my brother does have a little girl with a chic who hates my sister.  lol we hardly see the baby.  Personally I don't care, but it's sad that my mother doesn't interact with the little girl.  I say ignore your SIL.

[Sassy762]

Quoting Mommyof2n0308:

yeah thats true, she isnt techinically my SIL.  WHEW! lol. My Grandma has said that before. When I was pregnant my brother said very mean things to me about hoping I lost the baby, and I was a fat ass, and my mom told me to grow up when it upset me. but if I mention that he is an alcoholic, she goes crazy and gets all pissy with me. My grandma says its because Mom knows Ill defend myself what have ya. My mom and I have talked about the whole brothers gf thing and I think thats what it is to. But Itd be nice if I had someone to fall back on. I am completely alone in KS, my son has been sick and in the hospital and I had to do it all by myself, with no emotional support or nothing, its really irritating. When my nephew was born my mom had to spend every waking moment with them in the hospital, when my son was born my whole family went to the casino while me and my son were at the hospital by ourselves a day after my dangerous csection, well of course we had nurses, but still!. I guess this is turning into a vent about my mom more than anything.  Regardless of why my mom is doing it I just wish she would stop and think about it. But of course everyone looks through different windows and sees different things. I dunno, but today it is driving me crazy, and I feel like calling MY BROTHERS GF...lol... to tell her how I feel!!

I know how you feel.....after a few years of not being able to depend on my mom knowing that she would basically do flip flop for my SIL.....I decided that I would never ever ask her to help me again and I never did. Was it hard???  He%% YES. BUT you know what we got thru it one day at a time and it made us (me and the kids) stronger for it.  I would just let it go..it seems like your beating the dust out of the rug and eating the dust too.....I think that is how that goes, lol

Anyway.......I personally would call the NON-SIL and  give her a piece of my  mind........but that is just the way I am, lol  And  you know that your mom is not going to get them out in 1 month...don't you....... I think your mom is going to get stuck with that baby and she probably knows but figures the baby is safer with her than the NON-SIL...after all it is still her grandchild......just like your son is but sometimes it better to just let it go and ride it out........it is what it is

BUT do call the %itch and blast her, LOL

[Mommyof2n0308]

lol I want to call her SOOO bad, but itd be nothing but drama, I know theyll be there longer than a month. I am kind of looking at it in another way. They have NO idea how hard it is to pay 550 dollars in rent, plus utilities car insurance neccesities ect ect being so young. I dont think itll last, and so far everything that I said would happen has, while I am doing it by myself and doing a damn good job of it.. so even though it irritates me and even upsets me A LOT!! I am going to step back and laugh at them and not be there for them when they need me..... as for calling her, I cant, itd cause soo much trouble than what its even worse, she is so stupid she would have no sense to what I was calling her out for anyways.

[Sassy762]

Quoting Mommyof2n0308:

lol I want to call her SOOO bad, but itd be nothing but drama, I know theyll be there longer than a month. I am kind of looking at it in another way. They have NO idea how hard it is to pay 550 dollars in rent, plus utilities car insurance neccesities ect ect being so young. I dont think itll last, and so far everything that I said would happen has, while I am doing it by myself and doing a damn good job of it.. so even though it irritates me and even upsets me A LOT!! I am going to step back and laugh at them and not be there for them when they need me..... as for calling her, I cant, itd cause soo much trouble than what its even worse, she is so stupid she would have no sense to what I was calling her out for anyway

Give me her number.....I'll call her, lol

[Mommyof2n0308]

Thatd be funny OHHHHHHHHHHH OKAY, so I was trying to make my point on how EFFING stupid this girl is but felt like I couldnt, here are TWO examples that clearly explain it is not in my head. Sooo when Eyan was a month old, she brought him over and I watched him (before my brother moved) This baby STUNK soooo bad. I even called my grandma in cali, and was like gma why does he stink!?!? It wasnt a poopy or even a spit up baby smell, it was FILTH smell. Two hours later she comes in and I had bath wash I had bought my son on the table and she asked me if I liked it and I said yeah, and she went on, without me saying ANYTHING, about how she hadnt bathed Eyan in 2 weeks. I said  "HER NAME" and why she hasnt,a nd she said she was too busy moving. Okay,, so this was a few weeks after I had moved out of my house and into an apt BY MYSELF with TWO KIDS BY MYSELF.... and my kids still had a bath.. SERIOUSLY?!? its blows my mind. Then another time when he was 4 months she came out (when my brother was still here) and she was doing laundry here, and I walked in and didnt see Eyan so I ask her where he was, she pointed to the dining room table, and she hes right there. LAYING ON THE DINING ROOM TABLE BY HIMSELF ON A BLANKET!!! OMGGGGG not to mention her freaking out when my daughter was playing with a toy that lit up about how its going to give Eyan a seizure then 10 minutes later she is throwing him AIR BORN into the AIR.. it makes me chuckle about how effin dumb this chick is... My mom goes you were 19 once to. NOOO I  HAD  A LOT MORE COMMON SENSE THAN THAT, AT AGE FIVE!! hahahahaha

[Aidansmom213]

I know what you mean. I have one too.Words are not enough.