Can he still be ordered to pay child support and not be given visitation?
I am due in June and I am seriously considering going for child support but I do not want him to be granted visitation. Are you or anyone you know in this situation? Is it possible to have him pay child suport and not give him visitation?
Yes. Child support is completely seperate from "parenting time"... He would have to take you to court to be granted visitation rights. My DD was on state insurance so the state went after him for child support so they could have their cut... it was good cuz we get a LITTLE money and I was able to say "hey it wasn't me, sorry" and its been 7 yrs, he still doesnt have visitation rights. Dunno how diff the laws are in other states tho.
child support is completely seperate than visits. but to be honest as long as he isn't going to hurt the child or put them in harms way he could get visits and should. and if hes willing to see your child i would let him. but i know sometimes thats not possible due to safety issues like it was with my dd. you can always ask he not be left alone with your child. and i think not sure that they dont give the father over night visit when there really young.
You MUST go to court for child support and to have custody granted to you. Is there a good reason you don't want him to have visitation? I am not an advocate of fathers but if a father is willing and wants to have a relationship with their child, I say they get it. If you are on any PA, then you HAVE to go to court for child support or you will lose all of your PA.
Yes but, most likely if you go after him for cs he's going to want visitation. What are your reasonings for not wanting him to have it? If you can prove he is a threat to the child and he/she would not be safe you can get visitation cut or at least supervised.
He made the baby; he can and will be made to support his child. However, visitation rights will be determined based on his fitness as a parent and his interest in being a father to his kid. If he really wants to be involved in the child's life, you may not be able to stop it - even if you weren't seeking child support.
Honestly, he cheated and the woman he cheated with I dont want her around my child. She claims she was pregnant and lost the baby last year. She is really in love with this man (cannot fathom why), and I know at some point he is going to hve my son around her. I don't want my son around her because this is the baby SHE longed for. This is the baby she "lost" last year. He says she wasn't pregnant. She followed him to my house back in the summer and started harrassing me by egging my car, his car, my parents car, slashing his tires and busted his window out of his car. We never caught her in the act but we knew it was her. I feel that shows what type of people he will have my child around. I just feel that she will do harm to my baby because the baby isn't hers and she is jealous of my son for that reason. I feel she is crazy and he is JUST as stupid for continuosly dealing with a person like this. there are other reasons but the main reason is I don't want HER around my son. It may sound selfish but I just don't see me letting him take my son out of my sight.
those aren't reason to keep him away from your son but you can keep her away from your son she has no rights to be with him anyway.you can always see if he is willing to do visit in your home or somewhere public where shes not.
Quoting Skipsmom:Honestly, he cheated and the woman he cheated with I dont want her around my child. She claims she was pregnant and lost the baby last year. She is really in love with this man (cannot fathom why), and I know at some point he is going to hve my son around her. I don't want my son around her because this is the baby SHE longed for. This is the baby she "lost" last year. He says she wasn't pregnant. She followed him to my house back in the summer and started harrassing me by egging my car, his car, my parents car, slashing his tires and busted his window out of his car. We never caught her in the act but we knew it was her. I feel that shows what type of people he will have my child around. I just feel that she will do harm to my baby because the baby isn't hers and she is jealous of my son for that reason. I feel she is crazy and he is JUST as stupid for continuosly dealing with a person like this. there are other reasons but the main reason is I don't want HER around my son. It may sound selfish but I just don't see me letting him take my son out of my sight.
It sounds selfish but at the same time, he did alot of hurtful things to me while I was pregnant because of her. One time, my car broke down and I was sitting in the cold for over an hour because he didn't answer his phone. He was over her house and just ignored me. He has done alot of things during this pregnancy that caused me alot of unneccessary stress. I am soooo trying to forgive him really bad but its really hard. I can't look at him right now so the visits at my house won't happen anytime soon. I will take your advice I will try....A little later...
Quoting kcook55:
those aren't reason to keep him away from your son but you can keep her away from your son she has no rights to be with him anyway.you can always see if he is willing to do visit in your home or somewhere public where shes not.
Quoting Skipsmom:
Honestly, he cheated and the woman he cheated with I dont want her around my child. She claims she was pregnant and lost the baby last year. She is really in love with this man (cannot fathom why), and I know at some point he is going to hve my son around her. I don't want my son around her because this is the baby SHE longed for. This is the baby she "lost" last year. He says she wasn't pregnant. She followed him to my house back in the summer and started harrassing me by egging my car, his car, my parents car, slashing his tires and busted his window out of his car. We never caught her in the act but we knew it was her. I feel that shows what type of people he will have my child around. I just feel that she will do harm to my baby because the baby isn't hers and she is jealous of my son for that reason. I feel she is crazy and he is JUST as stupid for continuosly dealing with a person like this. there are other reasons but the main reason is I don't want HER around my son. It may sound selfish but I just don't see me letting him take my son out of my sight.
It is a seperate issue but in Texas they try to settle it all up at once in the mediation for support. If you can't agree, then you go before a judge. I never tried to keep my ex from his child, so I'm not sure how it works when there is no history of him being absent from the child's life; But I do know that it is possible for him to have to pay child support, and not get visitation.
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on Mar. 16, 2010 at 9:17 PM