I am new to the group, so first I will have to tell you all some about me. I am a single mom of one daughter, who will be 4 in January. Her father and I have been split up since she was 5 months old.
There have been many ups and downs. Child support has been random, with a 16 month lull where he never paid. The only money i ever got was garnished from his checks. He has had about 8 jobs in the last 4 years.
I have never restricted him from seeing her, even though he hasnt been the best father, even when he didnt pay I encouraged visitation. He lives in an unsuitable environment so I even allowed him visitation in MY home on Sundays while i was working. I often would go get him so he could come spend time with her, even giving him gas money to get there to see her. I have tried so hard to foster a relationship between them because I think its important.
I started nursing school about a month ago and since then he has been helping me since i have to be at school so early, and he really has stepped up and helped out with her, although not financially. he doesnt have a job, gets unemployment right now, and i am not getting support. He wanted to get back together and i think he was being so helpful to try to get back with me.
Anyway, the bad part is that i found out that someone had gotten my debit card and took 40 dollars out two times. I told him about it and he admitted doing it, which devastates me. He really had no choice but to admit, since there were cameras on the ATMs. I have never trusted him, i always have known he was sneaky and a liar. But he seemed to be doing better, and i sure didnt think he would have the nerve to steal right from my bank account. He claims to have done it to pay a bill, and that he was going to put it back in my account before I noticed, the first time was OCt 6, the next time was yesterday that he took the money. I am not working right because of full time nursing school, and I was living off my bank account, no support has come since early august.
My main problem now is visitation, he has no where to take her and I cannot let him in my home anymore. She has gotten used to seeing him daily and im not sure what to do. What should i do? I am so worried about her, i dont know what to tell her when she asks.
Thanks in advance
p.s. he recently had a child with a 21 year old girl, and he hasnt ever seen the new baby. She wont let him, and now im not sure i blame her