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I'm new to the group. Getting a divorce. Really scared.

Posted by

angelove8

on Dec. 12, 2011 at 6:01 PM

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I am 24 years old. My husband is 30. He's a lazy good for nothing piece of crud. He's selfish and always puts himself before our 4 kids. We fight like cats and dogs. We finally decided to get a divorce. I'm scared shitless. We've been together for 6.5 years. I've never been on my own longer than a day and that one day I was on my own I got raped and beat by strangers. Everyone tells us to work on it but I don't want to. I literally hate this man. He has put me through hell and back. We even lost our oldest child to CPS because of him doing drugs. I finally was able to get him back after 6 weeks. I want to return to school in the Spring but I think it's too late to sign up. But I will be checking. I'm worn out just thinking about a divorce. He's happy about it because he wants to start a band with his stoner friends. He won't be paying child support because 1. he can't afford it and 2. his family is trash talking me saying I used him to get child support. :( Screw him. I don't need any man's money. I am doing exotic dancing because it's the only job that pays me enough to keep me and my kids afloat. I truly hate daycares and am trying to avoid them. I practice attachment parenting and it means a lot to me. And daycares don't do that.

Posted by

angelove8

on Dec. 12, 2011 at 6:01 PM

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amonkeymom

Bronze Member on Dec. 16, 2011 at 8:49 PM

Welcome!

Try not to be scared, but think of it as a new beginning... a happier beginning for both you & your kids!

Mommyto2LilMen

Tina on Dec. 16, 2011 at 9:52 PM

Welcome and good luck.

Mia1983

Mia on Dec. 16, 2011 at 10:35 PM

You should do what you can to get enrolled in school. Go to the community college. They are usually signing people up even up to the first day of class. Maybe going to school will help you on your way to independence.

elizabeth.mary

Bronze Member on Dec. 16, 2011 at 11:16 PM

Welcome!

Things do get easier. Just get the divorce and keep him out of your life as much as the court will allow.

As for school, you can get grants that will give you money to live, because you are single mom. You have to have the divorce started though. At least we have them in California. It's very helpful.

But as for attachment parenting...please don't tell me you take your children with you to work...