Child support: *Update*(with question)

[Delila12]

For those who filed: What made you file? Was it a long process? What happens if they don't give you the money? Are you happy you filed?


For those who didn't: Why not? Do you regret it? Are you planning on doing it in the future? Is he still involved even though you chose not to file?

Just curious. I haven't filed. I don't think I am, but you never know. I haven't even had the baby yet. i want to see how things are going to go when the baby gets here.


Q:  hi im new to this website. but i have a question if anyone can help . my daughters father gets to claim her every other year which this is his year. but he hasnt payed a penny in over a year and a half. can he still claim her?

[Andrewsmom70]

I filed thru CSR because I didn't trust a word he said about what he was going to do. And I don't regret it at all. It's automatically taken from his paycheck and deposited into my account so I never have to hold my hand out to him or anything.

[Robsessed98]

I filed because he owed me money for having and raising his child.  Every man should have to pay support for any child he fathers.. PERIOD

[Delila12]

Yeah. what if they don't get a check? How do you get child support?

[muwchck]

I had to file when I moved back to TN because our son and I were on PA, so the state is going after him to repay on that since he was originally on our case.  But that was almost 2 years ago, and he still hasn't been to court about it.  I don't regret it one bit.  I know that the only way I would get any help from him is if he is forced to by law.  He has never kept a job as long as I've known him.  I have managed to take care of our son without his help though, so if I ever do see anything, it's likely to just go into an account for college or something.

[kngarber]

I filed mostly so we could get our custody agreement legally on paper and they did CS at the same time. I'm 100% thankful I did it. The state pulls it directly from his check and it goes right in my account...no ifs ands or buts. In Indiana, we had to wait 3 months for our court date, but if the father hasn't paid in those 3 months they will order back pay from the day you filed. If they don't pay they go to jail...

[CrystalYaris]

I didn't want to file for child support. I am better off without my son's "father" in our lives. The state, however, made me file when I went on the Families First program. Pissed me off! They know where he is, but they can't force him to show up to court. He tried to play dead when I was 21 weeks pregnant with my son. Months before that, he just flat out denied paternity. Then about 4 weeks before my son was born he tried contacting me under his mom's name and still playing that "I'm deceased" card. Yeah, we're better off.

[kngarber]

In most states he is still obligated...thats his problem to figure out how he will pay it.

Quoting Delila12:

Yeah. what if they don't get a check? How do you get child support?

[Delila12]

Wow. That's all the drama I would want to avoid if I did file. Knowing him, he would so the exact same thing.

Quoting CrystalYaris:

I didn't want to file for child support. I am better off without my son's "father" in our lives. The state, however, made me file when I went on the Families First program. Pissed me off! They know where he is, but they can't force him to show up to court. He tried to play dead when I was 21 weeks pregnant with my son. Months before that, he just flat out denied paternity. Then about 4 weeks before my son was born he tried contacting me under his mom's name and still playing that "I'm deceased" card. Yeah, we're better off.

[Delila12]

Oh ok. I always wondered that.

Quoting kngarber:

In most states he is still obligated...thats his problem to figure out how he will pay it.

Quoting Delila12:

Yeah. what if they don't get a check? How do you get child support?

[supermomma21]

Yep I filed, first here and then in the state he moved to to skip out on paying here.  They know where he is, where he works, etc but not a damn things been done.

i dont care, I'm a big girl and I dont need his money.  I take care of my DD just fine with out any help from the govt, or a sperm donor, and I'm perfectly fine with it.