Just wondering what you ladies think of this

[PurpleAffinity]

So, in a nutshell, my babies father is a douche-bag and he has this girl in his life that is an even bigger douche-bag.

She: - Cuts herself at 25 years old

       - Will stop taking care of herself and put herself in the hospital if he stops talking to her

       - Has been in counseling for 5 years for her mental issues but is still the same

       - Does not even have custody of her 7 year old due to "family" issues/pills etc.

They: - Fight a LOT

        - Fight physically

        - Use tons of verbal abuse

He keeps telling me he wants to be "done" with her but always kisses her tush and never kicks her to the curb. If he continues this pattern when our daughter is born, I do not want her anywhere near/around her for obvious reasons. HOW do I go about doing this? I've told him several times that our daughter is to not be near that crazy girl but I am pretty sure its going in one ear and out the other. Help?

[court.0125]

That's a tough one, I'm sorry :/

Just wanted to say, however, that yes she sounds a little extreme.. BUT, some people do have serious mental health issues and really need serious help. Its not always a matter of them doing things on purpose. Some things they do because of their health condition. Maybe he should look into a rehab place for her? And actual treatment not just therapy??

Also, I THINK (not positive) you can get it court ordered, but you may need more reasons that just 'she's crazy'. Like, has she posed any personal harm to you or threats??

Good luck!

[PurpleAffinity]

Thanks! - and yes she has actually. She's apparently waiting for me to have the baby so she can "beat my a$$". ...

I understand people do have mental issues, but its not for him to help her really, its for her to help herself. The fights they get into are extremely bad, hitting, holding, slapping, scratching (all of which she does to him) and then the things they call each other... Its horrible. Shes got scars on her (fresh and old) from harming herself because shes very depressive. ... I want her to stay away from my child, I want him to WANT her away from our child. She needs help and Im starting to think so does he for staying with someone like her. Aside from her mental issues she is just in general a mean/harsh person. Trashy would even be a good word for her.

[acastle2]

A friend of mine has in her orders that background checks and drug tests have to be provided if the parent has anyone moving in with them whether a friend or for a relationship. Also surprise drug screens can be done. If they don't pass the child doesn't have to go. See if there is a way to get that in there. But remember it works both ways.

[hellokittyy]

she would not be around my child. end of story. ! so start there and maybe he doesnt take your advice because your his ex maybe ??