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This post is a place for us to share advice, questions and personal stories about being a pregnant single mom.  

 

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  • Dealing with a break-up while pregnant
  • Pregnancy & dating
  • Single and chosing to become a partnerless parent
  • Thoughts on abortion
  • Telling the father

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by on Dec. 22, 2011 at 3:01 PM
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Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:56 PM

hugs  It's not easy to let go, but sometimes it's necessary.  Doesn't make it easier at all though.

My suggestion would be to talk to someone, you're doctor, a counselor maybe even get some therapy for you and your children to learn how to cope and start your new lives without bitterness, anger and to let go of all of the hurt of the past.

Quoting Lovetofysh:

My husband left my 3 children (11 yrs old, 7 yrs old, 12 months and I am now almost 6 months pregnant) a few months back and it was for drinking, partying and girls. I have "known" that but I had always hoped for the best... That he would return and things would be as they used to. Im definitely not good with goodbyes. Anyways, he didnt even acknowledge us during the holidays, not even a phone call or text. Tonight, I had to run to the gas station and he was there with another girl in his truck. I hoped he hadnt seen me and I left before I even got my gas because it felt like an instant semitruck had just run me over. Apparently he did see me because shortly after, I received a text stating that he has written us off and does not want to see or hear from us again. He then said that his new girlfriend was a breath of freah air. I stupidly tried to call him, several times, and of course he didnt answer. I am devestated. This is absolutely gut wrenching and I am so afraid of what this stress is going to do to my children, including my unborn son. How can a man just walk out on his pregnant wife and children? How can he even move on to the next so easily? This isnt the man I married. How do I get through this? Has anyone else experienced something so awful? Why cant I turn my back to him given everything he has done? I need help... Deserately. Please.


Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:57 PM

Welcome & congrats on your pregnancy.  

It sounds like the father of your child is really in denial, either that or really not bright at all.  lol  I'm glad you're not letting him get you down.

Quoting msmira:

Hi ladies! I'm 30 and 8 wks pregnant. The father of my child was informed that I am pregnant & repeatedly denied that the baby is his. His reason is that he pulled out... which just made me want to smack him up side the head. I told him that was fine, that we wouldn't need him then. He kept saying you don't know it's mine and I told him that is fine, to forget I even told him. I haven't heard from his since and I am fine with that. He was just a friend and our little one night stand ended up in this pregnancy. He has other children from a previous marriage, so I didn't imagine he would have this type of response. I let it get me down for about 5 minutes. 
My family & I are very close, my mother is very excited, my father is coming around as the days go past. I have a good job, with insurance and I rent a nice house; all of which I am very thankful for. I've always wanted kids and never really saw my self being a single mom, but I am keeping a very positive attitude!
 


Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:58 PM

Hi there, congrats on your pregnancy!

Good for you for not letting the stress of the situation get to you, it sounds like you & your daughter will be better off.

Quoting Brittney1992:

I am 20 years old and am 19 weeks and 5 days pregnant and my unborn daughters father left to go to another state to be with another women who I have come to find out is also pregnant with his kid. After he left I also found out some things he was saying behind my back like I was just his fun time before he left. Luckily I have alot of support from not only my church family but also my family cause I would not be able to handle being pregnant alone. I am really mad at him for taking off but I have to not stress for the sake of my unborn daughter.


Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:59 PM

hugs

Quoting mommybella1021:

my babys father made up a fake life to keep control of me now that he is not in my life he took everything from me im whole like im homeless and carless no money and for the last 4 months of my baby being inside of me i have done nothing but cry and be depressed.... all im  trying to do is take it one day at a time and ask god to forgive me for not listeing to the signs in the beggining .. i hope my life turns around .. i worked so hard to have my life set and i let a man lie to me and take it all away .. the last thing i wanted was to have my baby with out a father let alone with a dead beat dad.. :(


Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Dec. 31, 2012 at 12:59 PM

Congrats & welcome!  Don't be afraid, you're not alone in this even though sometimes it feels like it.

Quoting mcguc4:

Hi, im 23 and i just foung out im 5 weeks preg. the father of the baby wants nothing to do with me and i choose to keep my baby and do this on my own, with that being said i am scared to death about this and i would like to talk to other moms to be that are single and preg. i need all the support i can get right now..


flgirl12
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 1:26 PM


Quoting mcguc4:

Hi, im 23 and i just foung out im 5 weeks preg. the father of the baby wants nothing to do with me and i choose to keep my baby and do this on my own, with that being said i am scared to death about this and i would like to talk to other moms to be that are single and preg. i need all the support i can get right now..

Welcome! I'm 23 years old, 5 months pregnant, and my boyfriend left me a couple months ago to do this on my own. So, we have similiar situations. If you're like me, I'm sure you are having some high highs thinking about your little one, and some very low lows....But if you ever need to vent or just talk things through, I'm here as support. 

slbell04
by on Jan. 2, 2013 at 1:25 PM

29 and 14 weeks pregnant; ex ended things which is fine. He will be there for the baby and we will co-parent. No animosity, just disappointment that the dream didn't materialize. I am mad I can't give my child the two-parent home I had growing up. I'm afraid to do it alone so to speak. Just need support from others going through and know firsthand what it is like.

Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Jan. 2, 2013 at 4:32 PM

Welcome to the group.  Don't be afraid, you'll do just fine.

Quoting slbell04:

29 and 14 weeks pregnant; ex ended things which is fine. He will be there for the baby and we will co-parent. No animosity, just disappointment that the dream didn't materialize. I am mad I can't give my child the two-parent home I had growing up. I'm afraid to do it alone so to speak. Just need support from others going through and know firsthand what it is like.


PregnantMegan
by on Jan. 5, 2013 at 5:43 PM

Are there any other women from the Indian area that are pregnant and looking to date?

Cafe AmyS
by Head Admin on Jan. 6, 2013 at 3:38 PM

Welcome!  You might want to post a new message here on the group.

Quoting PregnantMegan:

Are there any other women from the Indian area that are pregnant and looking to date?


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