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I am only 22 and only 2 months pregnant. My baby's father was not there for me, was always going out, and coming home drunk and angry. On top of all this he was ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS accusing me of cheating.. (i only go to work and school, while he is always out with his friends). AND HELLO.. IM CARRYING HIS CHILD!?.. why would i cheat now??? I obviously know that these are bad signs and that I am better without him. It was/is hard to let go because I love the guy and I want my baby to have a father. Im just looking for some advice or words of wisdom to help with the stress. Has anyone else been in this type of situation??
Welcome to the group.
If you're not already, you should apply for WIC, food stamps and gov't assistance until you can get on your feet.
Quoting bergfamily:just broke up than found out i am 9 weeks along and i am already a single mom of a 7 month old. i have a dead end job that i make $400 a month at. i have no help or friends. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I am 24 and the mother of a very active 3 yr old and pregnant with one due in the spring. With my first me and the father had broken up before I found out I was pregnant. I gave him a choice to either be involved or not and he choose to move on with someone else who was supposed to be a friend to me and who also had a child. I was devastated and decided to just go on with life. Now fast forward to the here a now I am in virtually the same position this time with a different individual. We were together when I found out but as I had mentioned to him before there were thigs that needed to be done to better take care of the baby. I asked him to try to get into school so that someday in the future he could be able to provide for the 4 of us as a family. I told him that there was no way I could ever move and place myself and my child into an unstable situation and it was after that he broke up with me. I never asked him to change and I never asked him to marry me all I want is what is best for my kids and it seems like I am the only one thats going to care about them. I work from home and go to school full time to support myself and my child and in the process have lost all the so-called friends I had. Its a lonely life when you know people are looking at you like you are the bad guy and making you feel like shit because of all the lies spread about you on facebook .. I just need someone to talk to so I dont feel so alone
For the women considering adoption I would give it a little more thought first. I have two babies, a 2 year old an a 8 month old an neither of the dads has ever been around for my them, all I'm receiving right now is TANF an food stamps an I have no where to live, I'm trying to get a job so I can move out of my mom's house. Things are very very hard as a single mom, I need to find a shelter or something I can live at but I don't think we have anything like that around here.
I am 23 years old and pregnant with my first child, a little boy. I am due in 7 weeks. The baby's father and I had only been dating for maybe a month when I found out I was pregnant, and I then moved my entire life across the country to try to make it work with him. I changed everything about myself to try to please him, only to find that no matter what I did it would never be enough. He became emotionally abusive and I decided to end the relationship and move back home...although I know that I am in a much better situation for both my son and I, I can't help but sometimes feel really scared and alone...I sometimes wonder why my son and I weren't good enough for him.
Very recently I have decided to give up the "victim" mentality. It was holding me back. Now I am focusing on my happiness toward my son and the things that I can do to make myself better! 'The Complete Single Mother' by Andrea Engber and Leah Klungness was an amazingly helpful book!! It has really helped me gain some perspective and has helped me develop a plan...I think it could help a lot of other people too!!!
didn't see this coming
- Cafe AmyS
on Dec. 22, 2011 at 3:01 PM