Thanksgiving is tomorrow and I am already dreading it. I am the only one in my family who is divorced, and I have noticed that now that I am single, my parents suddenly treat me like a teenager again. I am 44. My brothers are younger than me, but now, instead of me and my husband being the oldest and leading in making plans, my little brothers and there wives step over me as if I am just another child. I am not asked what I want to eat, where I want to go, and am not even allowed to help. I am treated as if I am fragile, and as if, without a husband, somehow my status in the family has changed. I was used to being the oldest and "in charge" in some ways, and now I'm a third wheel and the married siblings are running the show. It is bad enough to lose a marriage, but now I seem to have lost the role I had in my family all these years. It feels really sexist to me. Is anyone else dealing with this? I did not see it coming!
on Nov. 21, 2007 at 5:33 PM