Hi and welcome to Single Moms Group. If you feel you're ready to take that step in divorce, then go ahead and file. If you want to take another route first and try working things out with him, try couseling asking him to go with you, if not then go yourself. G/L.
In my case, I knew I had my ex by the balls znd he knew it, too... So we did a quickie mexican divorce and then had it entered into the courts here.... $999 and 3 weeks and voila!!! And yes, it is legal.
Quoting amylee88:
whats a quicky mexican divorce and i have gone to counseling when we lived wirh his mom because i was depressed to the point is didnt want to live after 2 sessions i moved with my mom n left him my headaches went away n i started feeling alot better n i got a job and ke n my husbad decided to try again but he hasnt changed he dont tell me he loves me and hes really stingie wirh his money well for me n my daughter cuz when he got payed $1000 from work he gave a homelessguy $60 and his friend $30 and i had been asking him for kitchen aid mixer to make it easy for me to sell cakes and he complained it was so expensive n this n that so i askev for a cheaper one that was 50 n he still complained this are little things that make me want to file
oh, I am sorry. Know where his priorties are. Then kick him to the curb, go find yourself a good attorney and get ball rolling.
Quoting stickyfingers:
whats the rush? i have been divorced twice and honestly maybe if u work it out from seperate places...that might help. keep going to counseling. does he want to work it out?
Quoting amylee88:
since 2008 this is the 3 time we seprate i can no longer go to counseling as i no longer have inaurance but..it was for my depression and he.doesnt seem to want to all this week we havr.me arguing over.text n in person i been trying to fix this but he is always telling me he.doeant know what i wat since he already took me out of his moms house n got us a place which by the way i payed half of everything
Quoting stickyfingers:
whats the rush? i have been divorced twice and honestly maybe if u work it out from seperate places...that might help. keep going to counseling. does he want to work it out?
I think if you are ready to end it, then yes. Overall it is your choice. If you are just tired of it then you are always going to be tired of it. If he can't see that he treats you not the way you want to be treated then he will never treat you the way you want. When he can't understand that the miscarriage was hard for you then that's called selfish. I was in a situation like yours where he didn't appreciate anything I did for him, he f-d me over so many times and treated me like crap, no respect as the mother of his child and I just got tired of it. I left him becasue of that, becasue he said he didn't think there was nothing for him to change about himself, but I HAD to change. Not fair. And his mom was controlling over him and tried to put her two cents in on my part and wow! that didn't play good for me. But I kept nice to the crazies, but I did leave him. And he blocked my number like a child and hasn't spoken to me since. I just hope neither of them come back when the baby is born cuz heads are gonna be rolling. It was probably the best choice though. It only gets worse with people like that. You don't have to stay in ANY relationship where you aren't happy, why live the rest of your life in something you are always not going to be comfortable with. It's what you want. Let what you want come out. Make yourself happy before anyone else. If you decide to leave, there's a reason why. Maybe you guys need a break? I don't know the situation fully, but maybe a break is good for you. And then try to work it out. It's not over until it plays itself out over and over and over again, until you realize it's actually done. If you don't feel like it is done, then don't leave. Maybe you're just in the wrong place because of the miscarriage, btw I"m so sorry for that I totally understand how you feel. I had 3. It's really hard on you especially when that person doesn't understand or just doesn't care. Make yourself happy, and you'll realize what is best for you. Good luck and whatever choice you make, you'll be okay. =)
Quoting stickyfingers:
ok dont make a decision right now. this takes time. its totally between the two of you. is he a good dad? i read a book called boundaries that really helped me to stand up for myself and see what is going on. idk i know this is hard. how old is your child?
Quoting amylee88:
since 2008 this is the 3 time we seprate i can no longer go to counseling as i no longer have inaurance but..it was for my depression and he.doesnt seem to want to all this week we havr.me arguing over.text n in person i been trying to fix this but he is always telling me he.doeant know what i wat since he already took me out of his moms house n got us a place which by the way i payed half of everything
Quoting stickyfingers:
whats the rush? i have been divorced twice and honestly maybe if u work it out from seperate places...that might help. keep going to counseling. does he want to work it out?
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- amylee88
on Feb. 5, 2012 at 1:34 AM