scared of being alone

[bigfaith]

I only knew the dad for a month before getting pregnant.  I am now 15 weeks with my first baby.  He has been fairly supportive, but lately I have been very emotional and hard on him about several things just wanting to make sure he will be a good father/partner.  apparently I am putting too many demands on him, because now he has zero faith that we will work out, he is drifting away and spending more time getting drunk with his friends.  I believe he will be a good father (and he assures me he will) but Im having a hard time coping with the idea of being without a partner through this.

[Mommyto2LilMen]

*HUGS* and welcome to the group. 

[vbway]

WOW. I wish I had helpful advise. I haven't been through anything like that. I guess just try to stay calm and get yourself ready for the baby. Hopefully everything will fall into place. I know that it must be difficult to think you may have to do it on your own but sometimes that is just how it works out. And not just because you barely knew the man either. I was with my ex husband for 12 years. I never thought he would walk out on his responsibility, but he did. After my second child was born, we split up and he moved back to his home state. Now I do everything myself. It was hard at first, but it didn't take long for me to get the hang of it. Either way it works out for you, I wish you the best. 

[photogal831]

Stop focusing on him.....keep your focus on yourself and the baby. Regardless of what you do or say...he will do whatever he wants. You have no control over what kind of partner or dad he will be. I know its tough, but just focus on the kind of mom you want to be, and keep the pressure off of him. There was a quote I heard once, that is so true, "A woman becomes a mom when she finds out she's pregnant. A man becomes a dad when the child is born." It's just a little harder for a guy to get as attached as you are currently....but it does not mean he wont. Keep in mind this is a really big change for both of you.

[Joashmom]

At least he wants to be in ur life still and hes supportive about u being pregnan. Be happy about that. And take it easy in him. Dont be so demanding cuz ur just going to push him away and hes going to end up leaving you. I was talking to this guy for a couple of weeks before that ten years ago we were in a relationship for a year. And as soon as I told him I might be pregnant he stopped talking to me. He just disappeared. im going crazy about the fact that if I am pregnant I have to go through this pregnancy all by myself. so I understand your scared to be left alone. Just be nice to him and appreciate the fact he still stood by your side and he didnt run away. Btw hes probably drinking because hes stressed out

[iluvmybabe]

I know its hard and scary but that baby is depending on you. And you seem to have a good head on your shoulders. Its gonna be hard and 10 times harder as a single mom, but you willl be ok.

[brieri]

 Try to see a counselor for your fears. 

[cadeesmommy0120]

 

Quoting Mommyto2LilMen:

*HUGS* and welcome to the group. 

 

[bigfaith]

Thanks everyone for the sound advice.....this really is helpful to talk to other people that understand.  Its hard to fathom sacrificing so much as a mom, but you powerful women do it all the time, and that is encouraging to hear.  I just hope that what everyone tells me lately is true....that it will be hard, but it will be the biggest blessing of my life and that i wont be able to imagine life without my baby when it is born....???? :)