my sons father picked up our son today and im very worried

[Joashmom]

today my son father picked up our son. And im very worried because last time he picked up my son. He ended taking pictures of what looked like bruises and he sent them to dcf saying I beat him up. When they werent bruises. My son got a hold of my tanning lotion and it made some spots on his skin turn brown. Im disgusted at the fact that they pick up my son and get him naked to see if he has bruises. Because I wonder what else they do. he knows me very well too. he knows I never hit my son and I never will. He just wants so bad for my son to be taken away from me that he will do and say anything. So now dcf came here and started to investigate. I showed them the tanning bottle. I told them my son thinks the tanning bottle is lotion and he puts it all over his body. They checked him out and they said the best thing for me to do is to take him to his doctor. I did and the doctor confirmed that my son has no bruises. If it was for me I would never let my sons father take my son after what he pulled. But I have to let him take my son for visitations because its court ordered. If I dont let him take my son. He would call the cops and I would end up going to jail for contempt. I just hope my sons father is not pulling anything stupid today too. im afraid he will give my son red marks and take pictures of it and say it was me who did it. im afraid when he comes over hes looking at my house for cleanliness, looking at my sons clothes and if it has any little stain he would tell dcf, looking at his diaper and if its a little peed on he will tell dcf saying I dont
change his diaper. This is a nightmare

[Mommyto2LilMen]

So sorry hun, I hope he doesn't keep up with this. 

[photogal831]

I'm sorry! Just keep doing what you are doing....every time there is a claim against you, get the proof to back up the fact that you did nothing wrong. After enough false claims your ex is going to be looking like the idiot and won't be taken seriously.

[MommyJenny82]

I remember the father of my unborn baby saying how much he would love to plant drugs on the mother of his other child so he can take her back to court and try to get full custody.

Lets just say, in my parenting contract, it says how he can't do any false claims on me (i.e. plant drugs on me). It says it for a reason. I also have a clean record, he does not.

[amonkeymom]

Wow! 

I hope it's going well and he's not doing anything like that this time.

[brieri]

 I'm sorry for what your going through.   

[JAE1022]

I'm so sorry. I have no idea what I'd do in your shoes. Honestly, if he keeps filing reports for ridiculous or untrue things and you keep proving that there isn't any abuse/neglect then DCF should wise up to his game pretty quickly. For now, just keep your guard up and try not to give him any openings. ::hugs::

[3Dani75]

 Take your own photos of your son with a camera that shows the date/time before he goes with dad....this way if he tries anything you have proof yourself, dont do nude shots though cause then he try getting you for porn-pedophilia, dont want that to happen. Good luck!

[Jeanetts]

DCF employees aren't idiots. They'll catch on to his game pretty fast. In the end this could possibly limit his visitation. One can only hope. I agree with taking your one photos. Good luck.

[cadeesmommy0120]

 

Quoting Mommyto2LilMen:

So sorry hun, I hope he doesn't keep up with this. 

 

[strongerwtime]

I know the feeling. I did not have to deal with it to this degree. But it leaves you questioning yourself as a mom when you KNOW you are a good mom doesnt it?  How I tackled it was to pretend that it did not bother me.  Act ever so relaxed and cool about it in his presence. Smile and do not show him any visible signs that his actions are scaring you, even though it is a very scary feeling. Courts have seen all this before.  I do not beleive that they beleive any of these accusations are true. And document all his "crazy" accusations.