what are his motives!!! does he just want me for sex?? post V-day (update)
ok, so i have this friend hes great and all but we do have sex, he is my SO. for vday he bought me flowers, a bear, chocolates and bubble bath stuff. and he gave it to me even though he lives in another state. i was very happy that he thought of me, and it was enough to be greatful. so we started talking on facebook.
i told him thanks for everything and what not. so later we got into a conversation and i asked him about what is the worst thing you have done. he told me that he wished he would have stayed in az ( were i live) in a shorter amount of time. i told him that im glad he didnt stay for shorter amunt of time and that the mistake he made was that he didnt ask me to come with him. and i said it as a joke. he ended up telling me that he couldnt deal with my daughter ( he said it as a joke). he continued to tell me that he just wasnt ready for a child... i just told him i figured. i didnt want the conversation to get that deep. it was suppost to be our usual, "i have a huge crush on you, and im just letting you know" conversation that we have always had. so i just try to play it off. i told him that the flowers just make me want to have sex with him even more. he said that was his intention when he got them. lol i ask jokenly again if that was the motive behind every awesome sweet thing he does that turns me on. he replies with " i shoot in the dark and see what happens". i just told him well thanks im glad he doesnt see me as a sex machine. i just told him haha ok and changed the subjects. i ended up saying good night cause i didnt want to make it worse.
what does this sound like to you? am i over thinking it?
please note that he gives mixed signals he tells me things like if i was never with my ex he would have stayed with me in AZ. or he comes and makes out with me after i break up with my ex, and kissed me for like 3 hours. and buys me flowers and stuff.
Ok so yesterday i decided to talk to him, i told him i was sorry for making the conversation awkward. cause i felt like i did. I honestly liek the relationship that we have, its honestly just what i need right now. ( i good friend i could have sex with) but sence he lives utah the sex part has been discontinued. i try to get things to get back to normal, but i still dont feel 100% even he was like " nope nothing is wrong " but the way he talked wasnt normal. so i have decided to just distance myself. this will be hard sence cause all the sex aside he is a really good friend. this whole sistuation hurt more than my break up.
Um, if you're friends with benefits, OBVIOUSLY he wants to have sex with you. If he wanted more, he would have said so.
ya but this isnt the usual FWB. though he makes it seem like he wants more then gives me mixed feelings and signals.
Quoting charliebean:Um, if you're friends with benefits, OBVIOUSLY he wants to have sex with you. If he wanted more, he would have said so.
'Cuz guys are flirts and will say anything to get pussy. You wouldn't believe all the ridiculous, off-the-wall shit my STBX would tell his little whores. Just makes you shake your head.
Quoting Nena09alc:ya but this isnt the usual FWB. though he makes it seem like he wants more then gives me mixed feelings and signals.
Quoting charliebean:Um, if you're friends with benefits, OBVIOUSLY he wants to have sex with you. If he wanted more, he would have said so.
Quoting Robsessed98:
agree with charliebean. if he wantted more he would let you know. however, if hes not ready for a child would you want him to be anything more??
Guys will say or do anything for sex....its a part of life. However, it sounds like you have feelings for him, but because you just got out of a relathionship I would take it easy on jumping back into one.
ya no doubt, i really dont want to be in a relationship. but hes been a mystery for a while now so i just have to know ya know?
Quoting animebuddy:Guys will say or do anything for sex....its a part of life. However, it sounds like you have feelings for him, but because you just got out of a relathionship I would take it easy on jumping back into one.
Quoting Nena09alc:ya no doubt, i really dont want to be in a relationship. but hes been a mystery for a while now so i just have to know ya know?
Quoting animebuddy:Guys will say or do anything for sex....its a part of life. However, it sounds like you have feelings for him, but because you just got out of a relathionship I would take it easy on jumping back into one.
Agreed!!
Quoting MeeshMom:
It sounds like he told you how he feels. I say take the hint and move on. You deserve someone who is also ready to have a relationship with you having a kid. He just wants sex no doubt.
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- Nena09alc
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 2:38 AM