She wrote to me again! **added a question at the end

[MeeshMom]

Soldiers mom. She said she prayed for me yesterday and she hopes one day I'll be her daughter and my son will be her grandson. She prayedfor her son to follow God's path and stay away from any wrong. Idk what to say to that. How do I respond? His family is so sweet and loving and I appreciate their support but I've really honestly lost hope in him at the moment. Plus this is still fresh so it hurts a bit and I'm trying to get along with my life here. He straight up told his family he was going to marry me one day and they believed him and still do and I just feel a bit overwhelmed. They can't get him to change his mind and I'm leaving him alone.

What would you say to her? Idk. I started writing back but didn't send. I put this so far:
thank you. It's kind of hard at the moment to picture the things you describe about me and my son. I think because of the current situation. I've also never had some one like your son in my life before. But I have definitely prayed for him to get through his hard times and for it to not fog his mind. I still have to let him go and let him be though. I hope you understand what I mean. I'm just handing over any ideas of me and him over to God because I don't have a clue how he really feels. I do appreciate all your love and support. (soldier) and his sisters are very lucky to have a loving mom like you.

I just don't want her to love me more than he does. She can pray all she wants and so could I but he has to ultimately decide what he wants to do with his life. And right now I'd like to curl up in my blankets in my pjs and not think of him.  

*** just a question. If she happens to continue writing me what should I say or do? I don't wanna be rude or write her off. I just wanna leave him alone is all. I hope my last message got through and she gets what I mean.

[Danielle17T]

U should send that to her.. I'm sorry I know it hurts breaking up you'll get through it good luck to u!

[Robsessed98]

sounds good to me. my heart breaks for you ((hugs))

[MeeshMom]

I'm hesitant though

[MissTuree]

I think that was very well said. You don't want to push her away and then you two end up back together. (Which I'm hoping for!)

[tyfry7496]

Send her what you wrote here. Thank her for her support.

[Mommyto2LilMen]

I agree, send it and thank her for her support.

[petite101]

Quoting Robsessed98:

sounds good to me. my heart breaks for you ((hugs))

[Chanel5nyc]

Honestly I wouldn't have wrote her. I understand she cares about you and your son, but she is getting involve into your relationship. It seems sweet now, but in the near future if you and the solider get back together, her getting involve can be a disaster.

I would just keep "small talk" with her every now and then because she seems like a lovely woman. But I wouldn't talk to her how the relationship anymore.

[MeeshMom]

I agree. I don't want to talk to her about it but I sent this last message because I felt it was right. If she continues I'll politely tell her I can't talk about him anymore and I have to let him go. I don't want his mom to push him and I don't want to push him either. He's gotta deal with himself on his own. I had a shitty week already so having his mom tell me she's praying that he will marry me is like ridiculous and sad to me. Idk...

Quoting Chanel5nyc:

Honestly I wouldn't have wrote her. I understand she cares about you and your son, but she is getting involve into your relationship. It seems sweet now, but in the near future if you and the solider get back together, her getting involve can be a disaster.



I would just keep "small talk" with her every now and then because she seems like a lovely woman. But I wouldn't talk to her how the relationship anymore.

[iluvmybabe]

I agree that sending that was the right thing to do. And I also agree with the poster that said she is getting too involved. I think she has way over stepped her boundaries. He is a grown man and he needs to make his own decisions and her hoping and praying isn't gonna help him make up his mind. I hope she gives you room to breathe soon so that u can move on.