So, here's a little background information. First off, I have been talking to this guy named nate for the past 8 months. I met him three years ago when I first started dating my sons father. I never really spoke to the guy. Everyone was friends with him cause hes so talented when it comes to music (hes a sound engeenier or something like that) But he was kinda... nerdy so they made fun of him. But now, Since we have been talking for so long, i have really started to get a HUGE crush on him and he as well. We have only been talking through Facebook and texting becasue we both are so busy and dont really have great means of transportation. But we decided to meet up this friday.
The thing is, is that I really like him. What I know about him is his personality. I dont get to see him so thats all i can base it off of. I obviously have seen pictures so I have an idea and i met him years ago, but that still doesnt matter. Im scared that when Ihang out with him, that maybe I wont be attracted to him anymore. And i dont want that too happen because He is such a good person and looks shouldnt matter. Is there ANY way I can avoid being...shallow.... I know. it sounds like a really dumb question, but i want this to work out so bad. Its not as simple as saying DONT BE SHALLOW.... Tips?
Its not like i met him online tho. I actually know him from real life and have met him before, just hjavent seen him in a few years. Im so confused. i want it to work so bad
Arrange to meet him again soon so you can see if there really is a spark.
I believe it. thats why im so attracted to him as it is right now. And we are planning on hanbging out sometime within the next week. Im not TOO worried about it. i just really want it to go welll. People can be very different in person. Just like i know i am/
Quoting Robsessed98:
to me its the personality and heart that makes a person attractive. some of the best looking people are ugly once you know them and some of the ugliest people are beautiful. look past the exterior and see the prson inside.
Well if there is something more there, you will see past physical beauty, but if you're still not attracted to him take it from me, just keep it as friends. That will never change, same thing happened to me.
This exactly!
I met my fiance 7 years before we got together. I remembered what he looked like then, but looked quite different when we met again. I focused on the things I REALLY liked about his looks (his eyes, and his arms etc...) until the things that were a little less attractive werent noticable because I liked -him-! Now I find him very attractive ♥♥
Quoting faerie75:
I had an "internet romance" that became a text/phone call romance and it broke my heart. We didn't turn out to be what each other wanted. I don't ever recommend corresponding for long via email or texr because of it and also because one of my girls has kept on having bas experiences. I always recommmend meeting asap to see if there's a spark. You build them up in your mind, and they can be whoever they wanna be online/text.
I would meet him to see if it will go anywhere. If it goes well, great! If not, you'll be able to move on with confidence. Good luck!
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- Jademarae24
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 10:11 PM