Need some help Ladies....DS(5) has started hitting and kicking other kids at school and daycare. And its serious because he attends a private school and they have a low tolerance for this kind of thing. Things have been kinda crazy the last few months between my divorce and DD ADHD Diagnosis and having to focus on that. So I don't know if he's just acting out because of that or what. I've started doing a star chart where if he behaves he can get something out of the treasure box on a daily basis but not sure if that will work or not. He's been talked to, stood in the corner, had things taken away that he wants. When talking to him yesterday after the latest issue I told him I was very disappointed in him and he started to cry. It was the first time that I'd seen a reaction out of him since this started. :-( So please ladies help me with some ideas that might help me get this under control.
Every child comes with the message that God is not yet discouraged of man. ~Rabindranath Tagore
my sister mandy was a vilent lil girl at 5 she pulled my sister off the rocking horse put her in a head lock and punched her in the face and gave her a big ol black eye..... my mom ended it she didnt get anything she wanted for a whole week unless she was good my mom told her when shes mad and wants to hurt someone go walking and walk it off, or go play somewhere else, go draw, do something aything else. my sister started to draw and omfg she is an amazing atrist now! if you dont do anything you will have a lil paul on your hands (one of my nephews) he is 5 and been kicked out of 4 schools...... including a cathic school.
Quoting tyfry7496:
Family and individual counseling. Both your kids have been through a lot. I'm thinking that the divorce is affecting him and the violence is stemming from that. Whatever you do do NOT spank him, that will confuse him and just reinforce hitting is ok.
I've spanked in the past..but its a rare thing. Normally the kids are very well behaved. So this is completely out of sync for them. I have not spanked him over this for obvious reasons.
Quoting Milly275:
Not only that he will loose respect, and after a while he will not be scare of getting hit.
Quoting tyfry7496:
Family and individual counseling. Both your kids have been through a lot. I'm thinking that the divorce is affecting him and the violence is stemming from that. Whatever you do do NOT spank him, that will confuse him and just reinforce hitting is ok.
Keep reinforcing the rule of no hitting every day. If he does continue with the hitting take him to his room and tell him he can hit his pillow or some other soft item to get his anger/frustration out.
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- plprincess78
on Feb. 16, 2012 at 5:10 AM