Should I be mad that my new BF didn't get me anything for Valentine's Day?
OK so all my friends think I should be mad that BF didn't get me anything for Valentine's day. He just switched jobs and hasn't made a comission yet so money is really tight for him. My friends think he could've gotten me something ie flowers, a card....they think I'm being too nice and letting him take advantage of that. He did however come and spend time with me and my kids for a couple of days...we only get to see each other on the weekends because we don't live close and his new job is very demanding. My track record is being too understanding and not expecting enough out of men. So what do you think....was coming and spending time with me enough? Or am I being too easy on him? I don't want to continue the pattern of being under appreciated like I've always done. I let my STBX treat me this way and I don't want to make the same mistake. What do you think?
He's a bachelor and eats a lot of pizza and canned chilli...yuck! So I cooked him a big home cooked meal...
ok, he spent time with you and your chidren. What more can you ask for? Material things? Don't listen to your friends, it's not about him buying you things, as long as he shows you he cares is what matter, I think.
How long have you been together? The fact that he came over to spend time with you and your kids, is a sweet thing....don't get caught up in what your friends think, trust your gut.
this was me exactly. notice i said WAS lol. yes, i think you are being too easy on him. he could have done something... a 99 cent card or a few bucks on cadies or carnations or something. something to acknowlege you and the holiday. last year my new BF (at the time) didnt get me anything for three holidays back to back (christmas, valentines and my birthday). and i got him something each time. that did not fly with me. we broke up for that and many other reasons.
we actually just got back together recently though and he knew better to come over with no gift. he also lives far and works A LOT.
you deserve something.
My husband and I have been happily married for six years, and we almost never exchange gifts! Your friends need to grow up. This isn't a fifth grade class party. Pay attention to the things that realllly matter when you pick a boyfriend...like, is he financially and morally responsible? Those things are way more important than some silly gift. Most men show their love by doing things that actually help you (changing your tire, hooking up your new TV...) and not by purchasing gifts...
My boyfriend of 3 years didn't get me anything, and we didn't hardly see eachother, I went to the library to do schoolwork and he slept. (No he didn't work the night before, he works days) Then he made me take my dd over to his parents so they could give her a valentines gift even though he knows I don't want dd around them right now because of some things that were said and done. Oh and he didn't let me cook anything because he wanted to go to his friends house and I had to go too so we ate nasty pizza for dinner. And to top things off he passed out in his recliner when we got home.
As for your boyfriend I think unless you have been together 4 months or more u don't buy gifts. That he spent the day with you seems like enough if you don't get to see eachother very often
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on Feb. 16, 2012 at 11:51 AM