He's 4 now, and he likes to say, " I kill you," whenever he plays rough with my dad. I'm sure he got that out from the tv. Anyways, I'm trying to get him to stop saying that, I've even told my dad to not encourage him. Well, my XMIL heard my son say that to her husband last Saturday during my exs visitation. My ex calls me today pissed off about it. Apparently my XMIL called my ex and myself horrible parents because we teach our son to say things like that. First of all, he's just a child, he doesn't know what he's saying, and I believe it's something he will forget in a couple of months. I believe she's making a big deal out of nothing. This is causing problems between me and my ex because he now wants to punish my son for it, and I don't think that's the right way to teach him. Help me ladies, how do I make my son stop saying it before that woman creates a bigger problem out of it.
stop letting your son watch jeff dunham!! lol.
and actually it is a big deal, you, your son, your ex, could get in a lot of trouble if he says that at an inappropriate time, like at school....
yes at 4 kids have an idea that what they say is okay or not.. if they say something that is bad, you need to correct the behavior, they won't just "grow out" of it without punishing them for saying it.
But that's the thing, he doesn't say it at school, he only says it when he plays rough with my dad, and that's because he is encouraging it. I've told him many times to stop saying it, and my son does listen to me. I guess he figured if my grandpa is ok with it then my other grandpa will be ok with it too. Maybe I worded it wrong, how do I get my father to stop?
I would sit down with him and try your best to explain that saying that (even if your joking) can offend people and make them think you don't like them, so its not a nice thing to say. I wouldn't punish him, he obviously doesn't know what he is saying, but if you explain it to him and tell him not to say it any more, and he still does then consider punishment.
Tell him he is undermining you as a parent, and causing issues, see if maybe there's another phrase he could encourage something along the lines of play fighting, but more of a pg rating lol like "I'm going to get you" or something, GL!
Quoting mytrueloveS:But that's the thing, he doesn't say it at school, he only says it when he plays rough with my dad, and that's because he is encouraging it. I've told him many times to stop saying it, and my son does listen to me. I guess he figured if my grandpa is ok with it then my other grandpa will be ok with it too. Maybe I worded it wrong, how do I get my father to stop?
i think you need to tell him that he shouldnt say that...figure out what he is watching that may encourage this and stop letting him watch it and let everyone involved know not to let him...i do think it normal for a child to repeat what the hear when my daughter was 2 she one time was like die die die randomly i figured it was from me and my ex when we played residnat evil and well say die to the zombie but she wouldnt say it to people.
just tell him not to say that its bad to say that and mean
i agree talk with your father and tell not to encourage to use other words tell the father if he cnat respect your wishes they maybe they should play rough anymore
Quoting photogal831:
Tell him he is undermining you as a parent, and causing issues, see if maybe there's another phrase he could encourage something along the lines of play fighting, but more of a pg rating lol like "I'm going to get you" or something, GL!
Quoting mytrueloveS:
But that's the thing, he doesn't say it at school, he only says it when he plays rough with my dad, and that's because he is encouraging it. I've told him many times to stop saying it, and my son does listen to me. I guess he figured if my grandpa is ok with it then my other grandpa will be ok with it too. Maybe I worded it wrong, how do I get my father to stop?
Thank you all, I've talked to my father but he ignores me. I'll have a good talk with my son and my ex. If it doesn't work, I'll start punishing him. I didn't want to do that, but if it's creating problems with my XInlaws then I have no choice.
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on Feb. 16, 2012 at 12:48 PM