Confused! Divorced but still have feelings for him.

[pach1209]

Been divorced for 4 months.  We chose to get a divorce bc of my oldest son which is not his, they were having issues and decided to separate.  we have two kids together.  I still love him but since he has moved out i have found out that he has a friend.  When we talk he says that she is just that a friend.  We still have sex and he says he still loves me and misses me but I'm confused.  Should we try to work things out or should we stop the booty call and move on.  I don't plan on dating until my boys are older.  I don't want the drama of them seeing me with someone else.  My kids are 16, 11, and 3.  We get along real good.  Help!

[slvrbtrfly]

I would stop the booty calls, and see what happens. It doesn't mean move on, just get perspective. Sex clouds the issue.

[justme91755]

 Boy  He has his cake and is eating it too.  He is divorced from you so he can validily date and sleep with other women if he wants to and he can still come and sleep with you.  Sounds like the perfect arrangement for any man.  Did you try family counseling  for the issues with your son?  If you really want to be with this amn there should be ways to work on the issues between them.  If you are palnning on dating then it seems that you realize that he is not going to be the man in your life and you should let him go, stop the booty calls and move forward.If you are thinking you might be with him after your oldest moves out in a few years continue on the way you are but it sounds like you are hurt that he is seeing someone else even as a friend. Hard choices. Good luck

[moosesmom]

wait what?? you split up because of a child?? was their relationship that bad? I say, you should get back together besides him and your son not getting along, i guess you guys were okay. why the divorce? hubby and son should go to counseling...see if that helps cause you to obviously still care for each other.

[Robsessed98]

This. I would also suggest family counseling.

Quoting slvrbtrfly:

I would stop the booty calls, and see what happens. It doesn't mean move on, just get perspective. Sex clouds the issue.

[Dawnie-marie]

I'd say get back together and get the son and your partner to counselling.

[strongerwtime]

No more sex! Thats whats confusing.  It's normal for emtions to be tied yet as long as you still got this body connection thing going with him it makes the tie last longer...its like you arent really separated at all...  you said you get along good...well you can keep it that way, just put a boundary on that booty sharing :)....