I texted my sons dad and other stuff

[MeeshMom]

I can't find his address and I told him I would mail him the copy of a pic he and my son took when we met up with him a couple weekends ago. I texted him two days in a row and no response. I don't trust him still because of the many lies he has told me even up to this day. I am so worn down with work and school. I need a break. A part of me wishes he could take my son like every other weekend so I can have a break and my son can have his dad time. But I also know we have to do this slow because he has not been in my sons life at all and we need to take baby steps to even see if he can handle and deserves to share custody at all. I mean is it wrong for me to feel like this? I want a break. I kinda think cool he can babysit so I can go away on weekends or go out every now and then. Stupid huh. But I love my son to death dont get me wrong. He sometimes gets a little rough to handle. He acts out and misbehaves and he throws tantrums on the ground like he is 2. Kindergarten is just around the corner. I think I am just over stressed and take on too much sometimes. It's not that I dont want my son cuz I want him all the time. I just want an alone time for me or a break time for me. He is also a very loving caring boy. He is helpful and carries things for me or changes the trash bag for me. It's cute. But he does have pretty clear emotional ups and downs. I think a lot of it has to do with living with my parents for so long and the influence my dad had on him because he throws tantrums as a grown man and he is very emotionally abusive. For living there I feel like I failed as a mom but I am glad I got us out of there. I hope we dont get one of those adhd diagnosis down the line. God knows I will not give drugs to my son. And his dad is in for a rude awakening. He has no clue how to handle a kid. Good luck to him. I hope he can be helpful though and be a good dad to my son. I know how to handle my son better than anyone else. I hope he is willing to learn from me. ok venting/rant over. 

[5BMom]

How is a 2 year old "emotionally abusive"?????

[slvrbtrfly]

I think she's saying that her dad is emotionally abusive.

Quoting 5BMom:

How is a 2 year old "emotionally abusive"?????

[animebuddy]

I get what you're saying about your kids father. You need breaks and wish he could at least be a normal father and take him every other weekend. I feel the same way, but because he just came into your sons life its best to go slowly. Hopefully weekend visits will eventually occur. Oh and I wouldn't text him anymore asking for his address for the pics.

[lovebeingmrs]

My son has ADHD, and yes at times he is very hard to handle. Their are times I dream if my kids dad taking them for the weekend, but that will never happen. For the last three days my son has been very whine. He has been a handful, but I had no choice to put him on something cause in was having a very hard time in school. I tried natural things before putting him on anything, then we found out he has aspergers (a form of autsim). If he is hyper trying cutting down suger intake, and any tea or soda. Try to let him run around outside to get all the hyper out.
Don't fear a dx of ADHD. It's very common now a days.

[MeeshMom]

2 yr old was my description of the tantrums and I meant that my dad is emotionally abusive. He's like a roller coaster. And my son if 4 but will be 5 when school starts this fall.

Quoting slvrbtrfly:

I think she's saying that her dad is emotionally abusive.

Quoting 5BMom:

How is a 2 year old "emotionally abusive"?????

[mommy_2_be_2010]

It's been a year since my daughtwrs dad has been in her life(she's 2) and she cries when she goes we started off with supervised co visitation went to court had it out(i fought w/o a lawyer) he accused me of being depressed ect and while I had proof his other kids were taken for abuse neglect ect they took his word for it bc he had a lawyer and he now has jc he threatend me the entire time we were going thru court saying he was going to take her ect if I didn't do what he wanted. He'd even wrote a book about being in a mental hospital (before he met me, when his son died at thirteen) after walking out on me while I was pregnant.

The courts still gave him his way . Mama keep your eyes wide open stop texting him and be aware......is my point. Document everything

[faerie75]

 i have felt that way on and off since i had my younger kid.