Need help Mama's I don't know my next steps :(

[Christylove171]

Me and my bf are breaking up, hes moving out offically tomorrow and I have no idea what my next steps should be. I don't work Im a SAHM and have no money. 

Where should i start? looking for a roomate? Welfare? etc. etc. :( 

I'm so lost. PLease someone help me let me know how you guys did it. 

Feel free to PM me too. Thank you all so much 

[mytrueloveS]

I moved back in with my parents.  I had a job though, made it easier.  I say start by finding a job. 

[Shelbyjoy4]

I'm so sorry. That's got to be really hard. Hang in there. My sister's husband left her with two little kids and $20 bucks in the bank three months ago, so I'm familiar with the pain and hurt this causes.

The very first thing you need to do is secure income. That may or may not include getting a job. I would start by...

Step 1 - If he's your baby's daddy then you need to file for child support promptly. You can do that tomorrow at your local county services office.

Step 2 - While you are there, yes, find out what social services are available to you. 

Step 3 - Figure out the going rate for a roommate.

Then reevaluate where you are at - can you make your ends meet with those three resources together? If not, then you need to start looking at your expenses (e.g. is there something you can cut out, should you move somewhere else)  and other income opportunities (can you watch someone else's kids for cash or should you get a job). 

[Robsessed98]

first you find a job and sign up for every program offered by the local, state and federal government. once you do that youll be able to figure out the rest. one step at a time. its going to be tough but us moms have an inner strength that gets us through anything.

[KailesMommy]

One step at a time. The PPs have said it all.

[Bookoholic]

I would go get welfare they can either help you get a job or go to school.

[WilsMom2006]

 Go see if you qualify for any assistance - Food Stamps, TANF, Medicaid, Daycare.... because you probably do.... You would most likely be eligible for a Pell Grant if you want to return to school.... get a job (something - ANYTHING) for now...even if it does pay minimum wage. The government will be more willing to see that you are trying. You might even be eligible for Section 8 housing.... (I would avoid the roomate - personally - ever seen the movie "Single White Female"?) Good Luck Momma - good luck with your new lifestyle...you can do it! Oh - and set up child support payments.

[mommynac]

Go to DHS and fill out an application for emergency assistance. They will help connect you to resources for jobs, to file for child support and help you secure housing. In the meantime, I don' t think it's a bad idea to advertise for a roommate, if it helps. Good luck!

[wjh200]

Quoting KailesMommy:

One step at a time. The PPs have said it all.

[Mia1983]

I would look into social services. And file for c/s ASAP. It may not be easy to get it, but at least start the process.

[strongerwtime]

Yes start the process with child supprt. 

Quoting Mia1983:

I would look into social services. And file for c/s ASAP. It may not be easy to get it, but at least start the process.