She is being veru hurtful

[towerjunkie1989]

My 3 year old daughter, Delilah, is being VERY hurtful to me. Lately she keeps telling me she doesn't love me, I'm a bad person, things like that. Yesterday, out of no where, she told me "No matter what I don't love you. I only love Nama and Papa , but not you."

I told her that she hurts my feelings when she says that and I did have to get up and leave the room so I could cry. Maybe a part of it is pregnancy hormones, but I broke down crying. Today I am going to take her to the park or the store and just have an us day. I'm thinking she may be feeling left out because this week I've been working with her sister to get her walking.

She loves her sister to death and I try to make her involved in getting Krissy to walk. Instead of helping she wants to trip her. Krissy has enough problems with her chest cast so it's difficult getting her walking.

I just really don't know what else to do. How can I get her to stop being so mean? I never say "I don't like you when ..." I always say "I don't like it when you ...." just so she doesn't feel like I don't like her. I know a lot of times we can say something wrong, but what Delilah says isn't being said wrong.

Help!

[animebuddy]

How old is your daughter? Bumping for advice

[cadeesmommy0120]

 I have no advice hun...I'm sorry...I'd probably do the same thing if Cadee said that to  me.

[gregory2]

 Out of my 3 my two older ones say things like that sometimes. They say they don't love me or we are not "best friends" I just tell them, that I will always love you and they will always be my best friend. I tell them it hurts my feelings, but no matter what I know they love me deep down. she is three I don't think he truly grasp "love" its just something she is saying.

 

 As for being mean though, my youngest son (middle) is "mean" he has always been a the "scapping" type. When you turn your back he is liking to do something instead of right in front of you. With him it was always sitting in time out, talking about how it was mean, and what to do better. He is fixing to be 4 now and slowly coming out of that stage. I would assume its a stage, and the fact that it seems your kids are close in age, along with a new baby coming.... My kids are real close in age as well, so I understand. Mine are 5, 3, & 1. My oldest acted out a lot when he was 3 and his brother was 1 and I was preggo. It just took time and patience. You can't even tell he was that child now that he is 5 and acustom to everything.

 

 Just be consistant, make sure you have special cuddle time at night with a book, just you and her, or let her help you stir stuff with food. Always say thank you and how much you love her. She will eventually come out of it. I truly think its a phase. Good Luck moma!

[bxmom2580]

My 4and5 yr old sons tell me stuff like that too, like, I hate u, u dont take care of me, ur a bad mommy, im gonna call the police so they can take u to jail, I dont let it phase me, its a stage they go through

[strongerwtime]

My 2 year old will say to me "bad mommy" when she doesn get her way about something.  I just look at her and say "No, not a bad mommy, Im a good mommy"  and leave it at that.  Im thinking though, maybe more time with her one on one could help. She may not een know thats what she really wants is undivided attention.  When kids that young feel a certain way they usually do not have the right words to express it so it usually comes out in hurtful ways :(

[CoolRelax]

To quote MY mom:

"You don't like me? That's ok, that's not what I'm here for.  But you better keep it to yourself, because if you keep disrespecting me I'm going to do something that you REALLY don't like!"

You're trying too hard for your kid to like you.  What she's saying is hurtful, but I would be more focused on how this little girl sees fit to talk to her mama. 

[iluvmybabe]

My daughter has said things like this before too. I tell her too bad. I love you. And we're gonna be together forever so get used to it. Lol

[faerie75]

If mine said stuff like that when they were being bratty or not getting their way (pretty much was the only time they said it) I told them "sorry you feel that way but you're still not getting xyz."Maybe idk it didn't bother me.much and they rarely did it. Maybe she does it for reaction? She doesn't get one, it might stop.

[towerjunkie1989]

I'll try not giving a reaction. I know that I am now ignoring her when she says "give me blank" instead of asking or saying please. She used to say please all the time too, but now she has stopped. I want my sweet polite little girl back.

Quoting faerie75:

If mine said stuff like that when they were being bratty or not getting their way (pretty much was the only time they said it) I told them "sorry you feel that way but you're still not getting xyz."Maybe idk it didn't bother me.much and they rarely did it. Maybe she does it for reaction? She doesn't get one, it might stop.

[towerjunkie1989]

She talks to me the way my Dad talks to me and my Mom.

Quoting CoolRelax:

To quote MY mom:

"You don't like me? That's ok, that's not what I'm here for.  But you better keep it to yourself, because if you keep disrespecting me I'm going to do something that you REALLY don't like!"

You're trying too hard for your kid to like you.  What she's saying is hurtful, but I would be more focused on how this little girl sees fit to talk to her mama.