I didnt know where to turn

[Jennifer_236]

Ok first off I live my parents with my 2 boys, my dad has been yelling at my oldest calling him a brat and all this ( he isnt a brat he is a great kid) I cant take it any more so I called up my ex husband and told him what is going on, he is up in oregon, and he asked me if i would like to take the boys for a month until I can find a place to live and I said yes my kids are leaving for a month on monday I am crying like a baby here. I know its for the best but I miss them already :( and they havent even left yet. tell me I am in the right for doing this, tell me I am not the only one that is doing this.

[Lanie_momofone]

You have to do what you have to do , however ...get it in writting that this is only a temporary situation and ONLY for a month , and that the children will be returned to you in a month. Back your butt up legally....

[MissTuree]

You do what you have to do as a mom and as much as you miss them you have to provide a safe and loving enviroment for them. If that means missing them for a month so you can get a place of your own, that's what you need to do. Better to miss him for a month than to spend a year in a home where he doesn't feel loved.

[MissTuree]

I agree with this too. I don't know your relationship with your ex but you need to make sure he doesn't try to say you "abandoned" the kids when the time comes that you go to pick them up.

Quoting Lanie_momofone:

You have to do what you have to do , however ...get it in writting that this is only a temporary situation and ONLY for a month , and that the children will be returned to you in a month. Back your butt up legally....

[Jennifer_236]

we are really good friends still and i ready knoww when they are coming home because i am going to get them

[5BMom]

No way I would, or could, do it.

[tyfry7496]

Yes, you are doing the right thing. Your dad is emotionally abusive and that lasts forever. And yes, if it meant my son would be away from the poor behavior if his grandfather I could and would do it.

[Jennifer_236]

I am trying my best, and I hope that its for the best, by the time they are home I will have my own place

[photogal831]

I have never been in your situation, but if I was and the father was a reliable/safe place for my children to go, I would do it. You have to look at the lesser of two evils....one month away or emotional scarring. I think you are doing the right thing

[StephMarie_Mom]

Good luck! I hope it all works out for you guys. When I first came home from the military, I stayed with my mom for a little over a year. It was horrible. I didn't know to what extent her drinking problem was, and she was emotionally abusive to me, and even tried to attack me physically on more than one occasion. The final straw was her trying to attack me in front of my daughter. She picked up a large object and tried to throw it at me but missed, it ricocheted and almost his my daughter. I called the cops, and 2 showed up. I spoke with them in the room and they were very concerned because she was so drunk, her eyes couldn't focus and she could barely stand. I was mortified to come home to that. My mom was never that way when I was growing up, and it broke my heart. Needless to say, I moved out in under a month. That weekend I stayed in a hotel. I had no one to turn to at all. I was afraid I'd end up in a shelter with my toddler. You do what you know in your heart is best for you children and your well being.

[Jennifer_236]

thank you, he is a great dad, we just didnt work out

Quoting photogal831:

I have never been in your situation, but if I was and the father was a reliable/safe place for my children to go, I would do it. You have to look at the lesser of two evils....one month away or emotional scarring. I think you are doing the right thing