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Supervised Visitation

Posted by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 3:41 PM
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 "Supervised visitation" is an arrangement whereby a child and a parent spend time together under the supervision of an individual both parents agree on (a family member, friend, counselor, for example) who is responsible for the child's well-being.  Some counties have supervised visitation centers specifically designed as meeting places for children and parents.  For parents who cannot behave cordially toward each other, these centers allow one parent to drop off and pick up the child without encountering the ex.  (visitation MOms be aware - they do have have extreme strict rules - expecially when you have older children to visit - they put you out to acting like a child - in case you want to do something fun with your children and you cannot take anything with you - e.g. your keys, or purse, etc).

Supervised visitation is usally ordered when a parent or a judge believes another parent is unable to care for a child, likely to harm a child, or likely to say things that will negatively affect the child.  A parent who has been abusive to a spouse and/or child in the past, who has threatened to or seems likely to abuse or kidnap the child, who suffers from severe emotional or psychological problems, is or has been a substance abuser, involved in criminal behavior, or in any way poses a threat to the child may be considered a candidate for supervised visitation.  In most cases, supervised visitation is considered a temporary situation.  Ideally, after three to six months, the parent will either have solved or gotten a handle on his or problems.  The supervised parent usually must also attend separate counseling or group therapy during this time, in an attempt to help him resolve this issue.  Often visitation is supervised by a mental health professional, part of who responsiblity is to help the parent improve basic parenting and communication skills with an eye to making the supervision unnecessary.  Of course, that is not always possible, and supervised visistation may continue for years.  FOr most parents, however, supervised visitation is a temporary situation, something of a second chance to save a parent-child relationship that might otherwise be lost.

by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 3:41 PM
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LifeCafe42
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 3:44 PM
Thanks for sharing
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rec104
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 4:25 PM
I have this set up for DS & his father. But its been on going for the last 3 years, ex had serious mental health problems, can't be left alone with DS.
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mrsary
by Gold Member on Mar. 4, 2012 at 8:19 PM
My ex has supervised visits but doesn't use them. Its been 2 yrs since he has seen our 2 & 3 yr old.
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mmtosam06
by Bronze Member on Mar. 4, 2012 at 8:46 PM
My ex has supervised visitation and doesn't see his own flesh and blood hasn't seen dd since 7/14/09. She is better off without him.
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brieri
by on Mar. 4, 2012 at 10:29 PM
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 Those that say there ex's have supervised visits, and they're not going?  Have you gone back to court to rectify the problems?  Why have it continually be in a court document, ex is probably never going to solve his problem, so you could probably get complete Sole physical custody of your child(ren) and be done.  If circumstances change whereas he's going to change - then take it back to court.  Don't leave it sitting about,.  Just my opinion.

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