Am I being a heartless B****? Or Should I Just Return The Favor??
My son's father and I been through so much. He cheated on me a year ago and got another woman pregnant. To make matters worse, he ended up marrying her, changing his number and totally abandoned our son UNTIL my son was four months old. Around this time, his wife supposedly cheated on him and he decided he wanted to make things work with me and be there for our son. When he told me why he wasn't there for our son, he said it was because he was trying to make his wife happy and his wife didn't want him around our son or me. He said he was stupid for letting her control him and walking out on his son. Well, a month passed and he was coming to see our son everyday, always buying things for him, and supposedly, him and his wife were filing for divorce. I was even beginning to fall back in love with him. During all this, his wife would call me starting drama, trying to start arguments with me. Another month passes and all of the sudden he tells me "I should be with someone better than him." When I asked why he replies "You should be with someone who don't have all the drama I have and who doesn't have any other kids and has a better job than me." I said to him I didn't care about all that, I loved him for him. He then left and since then he has only seen my son once in a month's time. He'll call to "check up" on my son, but my son is only 6 months old, he can't talk! Whenever I ask when will he come to pick up our son to visit with him, it's always "I'll let you know." About four days ago, I called him repeatedly because our son was in the hospital for breathing problems and he wasn't responding to my calls or texts. When he did call six hours later, I asked why didn't he answer and he said he had a toothache?? However yesterday, he made the mistake of telling on himself saying that was the day he was dropping his other son he has with his wife off at her house. When I thought about it, I said "so that's why you couldnt answer? Our son was in the hospital and just because you was with her, you couldn't answer the phone because it would make her mad?" He didnt say anything. Right now, I've just had it up to over my head with my son's father. It's like he's turning back to his old self. I told him I didn't want him around for my son anymore if he was going have to hide the fact that he's there for my son around his wife. I also told him coming to see his son once a month is pathetic especially if you have more opportunities to spend time with him. Since he's been acting funny, it's like I have to beg him to be there for our son now that we aren't working things out. Was I wrong?