Had a meeting at the school today to go over all of DS1's testing that was done. There was testing done on his social skills (how he deals with his feelings and his peers....this test was done mainly by asking me the appropriateness of Kanin and his actions in situations), fine and gross motor skills, a psychologist did some testing, he appears to be a visual learner and also just did some observations on how often he needs to be redirected to stay on task.
It was found that he is very particular about things and he needs things a certain way before he can go on to the next task (I have always said he has some OCD), his afternoons are better than his mornings, his language skills are good, and his gross motor skills are intact, but fine need some work. There is more and I know I am missing it, but in the end they didn't determine him to have a learning disability, they suspect some Aspergers maybe (I have suspected this too). They were able to categorize him as "other health disorders" (or something like that) to 'put him in the system' thus we will be starting an IEP and he will be able to get the help he needs. For sure the counselor will still work with him on his social skills, OT will be working on his fine motor skills, they will determine what they can do to help him cope and learn in the school/classroom setting.
I am encouraged by this as they have all worked so hard in trying to help him so far. The testing took almost 2 months because of having to break the testing down into smaller segments in order to get accurate results because of his attention span (one of the tests took 4 different days). But also saddened/relieved to hear that someone else feels he fits the Aspergers description, but it is kind of hard to swallow at the same time.
So for the rest of the year we will pretty much work on building his IEP, and it will be implemented officially next school year.