MY DAUGHTER JUST TOLD ME SHE WOULD RATHER BE WHITE...***EDIT**
but she loves being "brown" at the same time. I'm brand new to this group, but not CafeMom. I'm asking you ladies specifically for advice for the obvious reasons. When I asked my daughter why she felt like that she said "because I feel different, and I don't feel good about myself" all in the same breath she put on a huge fake smile and said "but I like being brown too. because brown girls are pretty right mama?" THE ONLY REASON she threw in that last statement is because I have beat it in her head that she's beautiful, "brown" girls are no different than white girls, etc...
She's 6 and early on dad made a big deal about her having long hair (which she has). And she started thinking that longer was better. I also pointed out that mommy was super flyy and I'm rockin' a short 'do. So we've been battling with these issues on and off for about a year or so. I've even heard her tell her friends "I wish my hair looked liked yours".
So my question is how can I eliminate this problem. Since she was able to understand, and before this was an issue, I've made it a point to instill a sense of pride in her. "Black is beautiful" "You're important" "Being different is cool too" "Love yourself" etc... Even the people in her life from daddy, gigi, grandpa, aunts and uncles have done the same.
What else can I say or do? It hurts my heart to know that my child thinks she's less than because of her skin color.
***WE LIVE IN A VERY DIVERSE COMMUNITY. WE'RE IN AT A LARGE MILITARY BASE SO WE HAVE PEOPLE FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE HERE***
**I POSTED THIS IN THE AFRICAN AMERICAN GROUP FOR THE OBVIOUS REASONS...BUT I'D LIKE TO GET EVERYONE'S OPINION BLACK, WHITE, PURPLE, BLUE, WHATEVER.
****Thanks EVERYONE for your support and great ideas. I wanted to say that some people think we're putting to much emphasize on our daughter's physical appearance. I want you all to know that this is not the case. The OP was just giving you an idea of the kind of things we say to encourage her. We also put a lot of focus on the fact that she should love herself as well as others, tolerance, acceptance, and that she has SO MUCH MORE to offer than just that pretty face. Anyway, I want to thank you brilliant and beautiful moms for all the advice. Who said Cafemom was bad???? :-)