Quoting Caleighsmommy:ok this will not be the most comforting response you get out of this post, BUT
relax, take a deep breath and for the love of god get a camera, voice reocrder and print EVERYTHING he emails or send to you.....you need to be able to cover your ass in the event he is really ready to fight. I say that only because my bf took his bm to court and she thought bc she had 2 kids already (diff men) that she was gods gift to mothering and she knew everything blah blah blah, well he made sure to document all her shit and she was taking piss poor care of the son....i mean it was child abuse...and he had ALL his shit ready and got full custody of son and she was put on supervised visits for a year. I dont tell you that to scare I just want you to know if hes ready to fight you have to to "fight" back....im sure you are a great and capable mother but make sure you dont give him any "ammo" (i know it sucks having to go through this because I went through the EXACT same thing with my kids father so i have a few other pointers if you want to message me)
on another note.....it wont look very good for him in court as a father if hes about to give up his rights to another kid....i mean what kind of dad abandons one kids and fights for the others....sounds like hes more in it for the money......and your sister being a felon shouldnt matter shes not their mother you are.
Also imo (because me and bf went thru awful custody battles with our kids other parents) it sounds like (from the comment about "does that make you mad") he may already be recording the phone calls with you (trying to get "dirt" on you) so while you def should let him talk to kids still dont talk to him....if you do, make sure you are over the top pleasent and positive and always have whats best for the kids in mind.....of course as a mother we alwasy do! :)
1. document document document!!!! write down every time he contacts or visits the kids and when. 2.Get a lawyer. 3. be civil miranda rights are true everything you say can and will be used against you in a court of law so play nice, But firm. dont talk bad about your ex in front of your kids, he is their father, dont pick fights or anything and ask everything (requests ect) to be in a text or email. That way you have proof of contact and whats going on. GL girl no matter what you and your kids will be ok.
Just a single mom living my life for my wonderful son! 
Isnt it against the law to not let the other person know they are recording the conversation?
Quoting Kenre:
I thought he might be recording it. I didnt give him anything he could use in court. I had my kids right there and I dont bad mouth him in front of them. I didnt get to respond much anyway. He did all the threatening and talking. It made him sound horrible.
Quoting Caleighsmommy:ok this will not be the most comforting response you get out of this post, BUT
relax, take a deep breath and for the love of god get a camera, voice reocrder and print EVERYTHING he emails or send to you.....you need to be able to cover your ass in the event he is really ready to fight. I say that only because my bf took his bm to court and she thought bc she had 2 kids already (diff men) that she was gods gift to mothering and she knew everything blah blah blah, well he made sure to document all her shit and she was taking piss poor care of the son....i mean it was child abuse...and he had ALL his shit ready and got full custody of son and she was put on supervised visits for a year. I dont tell you that to scare I just want you to know if hes ready to fight you have to to "fight" back....im sure you are a great and capable mother but make sure you dont give him any "ammo" (i know it sucks having to go through this because I went through the EXACT same thing with my kids father so i have a few other pointers if you want to message me)
on another note.....it wont look very good for him in court as a father if hes about to give up his rights to another kid....i mean what kind of dad abandons one kids and fights for the others....sounds like hes more in it for the money......and your sister being a felon shouldnt matter shes not their mother you are.
Also imo (because me and bf went thru awful custody battles with our kids other parents) it sounds like (from the comment about "does that make you mad") he may already be recording the phone calls with you (trying to get "dirt" on you) so while you def should let him talk to kids still dont talk to him....if you do, make sure you are over the top pleasent and positive and always have whats best for the kids in mind.....of course as a mother we alwasy do! :)
Just a single mom living my life for my wonderful son!
Quoting Kenre:
Oh, and then he asked if it made me angry before he hung up the phone. He knows I went to anger management when I was nineteen because of my uncontrollable anger outbursts. I said no before he hung up. I have control of my anger now, but it seems he is trying to make me look unstable.
Quoting Caleighsmommy:ok this will not be the most comforting response you get out of this post, BUT
relax, take a deep breath and for the love of god get a camera, voice reocrder and print EVERYTHING he emails or send to you.....you need to be able to cover your ass in the event he is really ready to fight. I say that only because my bf took his bm to court and she thought bc she had 2 kids already (diff men) that she was gods gift to mothering and she knew everything blah blah blah, well he made sure to document all her shit and she was taking piss poor care of the son....i mean it was child abuse...and he had ALL his shit ready and got full custody of son and she was put on supervised visits for a year. I dont tell you that to scare I just want you to know if hes ready to fight you have to to "fight" back....im sure you are a great and capable mother but make sure you dont give him any "ammo" (i know it sucks having to go through this because I went through the EXACT same thing with my kids father so i have a few other pointers if you want to message me)
on another note.....it wont look very good for him in court as a father if hes about to give up his rights to another kid....i mean what kind of dad abandons one kids and fights for the others....sounds like hes more in it for the money......and your sister being a felon shouldnt matter shes not their mother you are.
Also imo (because me and bf went thru awful custody battles with our kids other parents) it sounds like (from the comment about "does that make you mad") he may already be recording the phone calls with you (trying to get "dirt" on you) so while you def should let him talk to kids still dont talk to him....if you do, make sure you are over the top pleasent and positive and always have whats best for the kids in mind.....of course as a mother we alwasy do! :)
Quoting mylilgooberpea:Isnt it against the law to not let the other person know they are recording the conversation?
Quoting Kenre:
I thought he might be recording it. I didnt give him anything he could use in court. I had my kids right there and I dont bad mouth him in front of them. I didnt get to respond much anyway. He did all the threatening and talking. It made him sound horrible.
Quoting Caleighsmommy:ok this will not be the most comforting response you get out of this post, BUT
relax, take a deep breath and for the love of god get a camera, voice reocrder and print EVERYTHING he emails or send to you.....you need to be able to cover your ass in the event he is really ready to fight. I say that only because my bf took his bm to court and she thought bc she had 2 kids already (diff men) that she was gods gift to mothering and she knew everything blah blah blah, well he made sure to document all her shit and she was taking piss poor care of the son....i mean it was child abuse...and he had ALL his shit ready and got full custody of son and she was put on supervised visits for a year. I dont tell you that to scare I just want you to know if hes ready to fight you have to to "fight" back....im sure you are a great and capable mother but make sure you dont give him any "ammo" (i know it sucks having to go through this because I went through the EXACT same thing with my kids father so i have a few other pointers if you want to message me)
on another note.....it wont look very good for him in court as a father if hes about to give up his rights to another kid....i mean what kind of dad abandons one kids and fights for the others....sounds like hes more in it for the money......and your sister being a felon shouldnt matter shes not their mother you are.
Also imo (because me and bf went thru awful custody battles with our kids other parents) it sounds like (from the comment about "does that make you mad") he may already be recording the phone calls with you (trying to get "dirt" on you) so while you def should let him talk to kids still dont talk to him....if you do, make sure you are over the top pleasent and positive and always have whats best for the kids in mind.....of course as a mother we alwasy do! :)
oh honey no worries then. clearly hes a complete prick who has nothing better to do today than be an asshole complete with a side of douchebag...... Keep al lthat stuff....best thing go ahead and print a copy now just in case the internet fucking up the day you go to print it....thats always my luck! lol. Clearly you are a good mother and hes just trying to bully you. Stand firm. you know what is truely in the best interest of your babies and hes a bitter, sexually frustrated fucktard. I still think you should cover your ass and keep doing what you are doing!
Quoting Kenre:
I do keep them all. I even have his admitting to giving my oldest milk and I have the allergists papers on his milk allergy. I have his hissy fit from an email when I just kindly suggested he buy our middle son diapers he isnt allergic to. I even have his text stating that if I give him sex he will drop visits and start paying child support. Then when I said no, he said he wanted 50/50 and to stop their special needs therapy. Now he wants full and me to pay child support. He told me he is doing this because he heard I was dating again ( I have that in an email.)
Quoting Caleighsmommy:
ok this will not be the most comforting response you get out of this post, BUT
relax, take a deep breath and for the love of god get a camera, voice reocrder and print EVERYTHING he emails or send to you.....you need to be able to cover your ass in the event he is really ready to fight. I say that only because my bf took his bm to court and she thought bc she had 2 kids already (diff men) that she was gods gift to mothering and she knew everything blah blah blah, well he made sure to document all her shit and she was taking piss poor care of the son....i mean it was child abuse...and he had ALL his shit ready and got full custody of son and she was put on supervised visits for a year. I dont tell you that to scare I just want you to know if hes ready to fight you have to to "fight" back....im sure you are a great and capable mother but make sure you dont give him any "ammo" (i know it sucks having to go through this because I went through the EXACT same thing with my kids father so i have a few other pointers if you want to message me)
on another note.....it wont look very good for him in court as a father if hes about to give up his rights to another kid....i mean what kind of dad abandons one kids and fights for the others....sounds like hes more in it for the money......and your sister being a felon shouldnt matter shes not their mother you are.
Also imo (because me and bf went thru awful custody battles with our kids other parents) it sounds like (from the comment about "does that make you mad") he may already be recording the phone calls with you (trying to get "dirt" on you) so while you def should let him talk to kids still dont talk to him....if you do, make sure you are over the top pleasent and positive and always have whats best for the kids in mind.....of course as a mother we alwasy do! :)
Woohoo, we've decided to file for divorce
- Kenre
on Apr. 16, 2012 at 10:27 AM