Spent some time with bd this weekend, and we talked about why he up and decided to not be around any more (we've been broken up for 7 months, but he was still watching ds every day up until a month ago)....and we talked about why he doesn't take the opportunities he has to see ds...apparently now that ds is more attached to me and not bd, he says he can see that him leaving has affected ds (duh!) and every time bd leaves ds flips out and bd says its easier to stay away. He just distracts himself with whatever and whoever....but when he's around ds he feels like a pos....he said he's convinced ds will have less crying fits if he's just not around at all.....I said yea so because ds is having a hard time adjusting to you not being here, its best you don't come around at all so he eventually just won't remember who you are? Great idea! Smh...I'm not sure how much of this is really true, but I do believe that he feels like a pos when he's around, because him and ds used to be really close and now it takes a while for ds to warm up to him...I'm just not so sure on if he really thinks its better for ds, for him not to come around, or if its just easier for bd so he isn't reminded of the fact that what he does affected his child negatively.....either way....it makes a lot more sense to me now! lol
It makes me wonder if a lot of dead beat dads feel the same way...like they stay away because its easier than feeling guilty, kwim?
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