Okay, so dd is 7 weeks old as of Thursday and to update about her father (Lets call him A), NO he has still yet to ask about dd. (Previous post below, as well as a lil more info)
I had a friend come into town this weekend and he happeneds to be a mutual friend of me and A. A hasnt seen his dd since she left the hospital with the excuse of not having money or a way to come over and see her. Well, he had the opprotunity to see her yesterday with my friend giving him a ride. Did he show up? NO! His excuse being that he had to go to an appointment with his girlfriend (lets call her M). Okay, why do you have to hold her hand; she is more important and your dd? Well I guess our friend hung out with A last night.
I get a call from my friend this morning and he explains that A has managed to get M pregnant! 4 1/2 months pregnant at that! WTF. There is back story with that girlfriend.... if anyone is interested in hearing about it just ask. Its a story in itself(Back story is below).
I broke it off with him when I was 4 months pregnant and he got with M right after the fact. I just had dd March 1st. M was at least 2 months pregnant while A stood in MY delivery room while I gave birth. I was on the fence on whether or not to allow him in the delivery room. I had posted about this a while back. I wasnt going to let him be there, because I felt he hadnt earned it; but I caved and let him in. F**K I regret it!
Anyway, I am going to go to the welfare office and figure out what all I have to do to file for full custody and child support this week. I have been so pissed all day over this bullshit.
((Previous post about Ex SO))
TL;DR Version- Im upset at the fact that DD father hasnt asked how she is in 3 (Now 7) weeks.
Ok. So Im not with my dd's father, havnt been since I was 4mo pregnant. I am now 4 weeks pp. He doesnt have a job, he apparently is working for the government babysitting for a friend of his ( I have had a few friends do this, it is legit, but you have to do everything they say in order to get your wages, just like any job ). Thing is, he has been supposedly doing this for about 2 months now... Has he gotten paid yet? Not that I am aware of! Because he needs a new ID and a birth cert. Well, why havnt you got those yet so you can get your f***n money???? Seriously? I gave him the benefit of the doubt that he wanted to be involved and I kept defending him about the fact that he cares about his dd. I just dont see any effort. In the 4 weeks of his daughters life he as asked how she was ONCE. He has told me he was off certain days but he didnt know how he was going to make it over to my house. Thing is, he may be broke, but I know his mother would give him 5 bucks to get on the bus to see her gradbaby. My mom has forbidden me from picking up seeing that it is her car, and she/and I want to see how long it will take him to get over here himself. I will also not take her over to his house because he has a bed bug issue. So yea, that has been my major upset for the last week or so; I realized he hasnt ask how dd is in 3 weeks.
((For those who requested the backstory on M.))
Okay so, A dated M before me, they had broken up not to long before. I didnt really know much about her until later on in the relationship. Apparently she was seeing another woman throughout the relationship (odd but okay). Anyway, she got pregnant by him. She had broken it off with him to be with the other woman early in the pregnancy. A says he tried to find her and contact her and blah blah blah throughout the whole and after the baby was born to no success. He said he was very pissed about her leaving and this that and the other but I actually doubt now that I see the way he is treating this his dd; he just flat doesnt care. He hadnt see her for about 2 1/2 - 3 years ish (I think, dont quote me on the time line.... I think the kid is just turning 2 and he hadnt seen her since she got pregnant). I was at his house talking to him, we had broken up by this time, and there was a knock at the door. There was M. She comes in and tells her sob story and how she put the baby up for adoption. He had never seen or met that baby! I was furious. She had told one story there, and then a few weeks later Im chatting with another mutual friend of A and Is and she explains a different story (that M supposidly told her). Really? They dont recall that explaination either... I am sorry to say that they are both kind of slow. Something has to be wrong with them to make them forget what they said the first time around. Im great at catching people in lies, because I actually listen... I may not remember ALL of what is said but I remember most. Anyway, they get back together; AFTER ALL OF THAT! How could you get back with someone who ends up leaving with your first born and disappears and reappears telling you she put them up for adoption. Then you get her pregnant while you have another chick 5 months pregnant! WTF.
BTW he doesnt know I know yet.
Athena Dale ~ March 1, 2012