My son throws so many tantrums. At almost 5 yrs old I need to nip this in the bud. He cries and gets hysterical to the point he's throwing himself around the floor dragging himself and he sometimes gets injured doing this. I try to get him to stop or put him in a safe area (on carpet) but its getting to a point where I can't take it anymore. Hes also very big so i cant lift him. Hes about half my weight. Here's what I'm doin so far:
Example 1: When I worked a late day my parents picked him up from school and made him dinner at their place. When I got there to pick him up he was goofing off. He'd only ate the meat and left his noodles and broccoli (the only veggie he will eat). Then he gets up off his chair and runs across the room onto the couch with his greasy hands. He was not listening to me or my parents. My parents yell a lot so to avoid the drama I said that's it we are going home. I picked up his shoes and socks and jacket. I said lets go. If you won't eat your dinner and you disrespect gma and gpa's house you're done. He threw a fit but he followed me to the car. We went home. Showered then bed.
Example 2: Today I pick up my son after work. He was hungry so I cooked up dinner. While I was cooking he kept whining. I told him to chill. But he was doing alright. He tends to complain about the littlest things like the order things are done and whatnot. So dinner is served. He keeps tipping his chair back hitting the wall and I always tell him not to do that. He eats his noodles and plays with his fish sticks. He gets up multiple times and is starting to get crabby and snotty with me. I tell him sit and eat or you will not play and no desert. He continues this. Then he has to poop in the middle of dinner. We go back to finish his meal. He's whining about being able to eat dessert and play outside. He throws about three tantrums on the floor during this whole thing. I told him he's almost 5 and they don't allow 2 year old tantrums in kindergarten so I'm not gonna let you play and have dessert as long as you act like this. He finally eats the rest of his meal but he keeps throwing the damn tantrums! I wanna play! Waaahhh!!! So I ignore. I say let's go shower time. He gets all whiney and keeps the tantrum up. He's now In the shower playing and his attitude is better after being washed.
Anyway am I doing the right thing? I feel like I should ground him from playing if he whines on the floor and cries to get his way. I'm sick of it. No tv and no sweets either. I don't do too many sweets here anyway. I want him to learn to handle business and do his job (take shower, clean toys, go to bed) ya know a kids job without giving me a huge fit. I'm fed up! And if his dad (who has only met him twice) had to deal with this you bet your ass he'd be calling me to take the kid back.
I love my son with all my heart. I want him to grow to be a cooperative and respectful man. The only male influence he's had was my dad who tends to scream at all of us if we don't agree with him or if he doesn't like something. So I'm working on this. It's tough! And I know it's important for him to play but if he mouths off then too bad. He plays all day at school. I'm gonna stick to my guns. I hate being the "bad guy." Oh mother.