I am new here and honestly, just signed up because I guess I need someone to talk to. I'm having a hard time dealing with the news that my ex is moving in a new girlfriend.
I have plenty of reasons to not like my ex, and its like a constant love hate thing for me with him.. We broke up soon after I was pregnant and he basically abandoned me through out the pregnancy. We did start talking again and messing around soon after he became single again, but I guess I still had too much resentment and distrust and he also seemed to retreat after everytime it seemed we were making progress so it just wasn't going to work out...
I've caught him in mainly lies, mainly one where he says he can't see out son because he has to go out of town, to later find out he went out of town to meet some girl he's been talking to and texting.. well apparently, this girl who lives in Iowa, and that he now admits he's seen 3 times is 'the one' for him and he's moving her and her 10 year old in to his home in a few months.
I can admit part of me is upset for personal reasons, like he's choosen her over me, that I'm being replaced and its upsetting that he didn't try too hard to make things work with us and to be a family for our son but he's all for trying to move in some girl he hardly knows but then I'm also upset for the logical reason that HE HARDLY knows this girl!!
I mean, yes, I know he's been talking to her since October, and I know they talk a lot, but they've only seen each other in person 3 times. I thought it was advisable to wait until you are seriously dating someone for 6 months before you INTRODUCE your child to them, not chat on the phone for 6 months then move the girl in and her little kid too. That's another thing that has me thinking wth??? I mean this girl has a 10 year old son and she's willing to rip her own kid from all of his family, his friends, his whole life for some smooth talker she has only met in person 3 times???
What kind of mom does that? I'm not perfect but holy jesus, I would never even consider bringing a man around my kids unless we were dating a long time and talking about moving in together, and then I'd probably wait another 6 months after the kids meet him to make sure they all get along, the kids like him etc before I actually made the move. So now I'm thinking, if this woman cares so little for her own kid, his happiness, stability etc what can I expect from her in regards to my own child?
IDK.. I'm a ball full of stress, anxiety, emotions, rage, fear, jealously.. ya.. if anyone has been there, or cares ot offer any support, words of wisdom etc I'd love to have someone to talk to about this.