I am conflicted as to what to do with my family. I hate them. They have been so unsupportive and horrible to me since I became a mom 2 years ago, the stories would blow your mind. They do nothing for my daughter, never buy her anything, take her anywhere , etc etc. But they are nice to her when they see her and I know that makes her happy. I have been brought up with my mother saying family only counts and strangers dont care about you, but honestly without moms that I have met over the past 2 years, I think I may have been hospitalized for severe depression, due to the complete loneliness I have felt. We do not speak to my soon to be ex family (and I am separated because he is abusive and I threw him out) . It looks like my daughter will be an only child because I am an older mom, and I want her to have people who love her around. The truth is its impossible to not love her, she is the sweetest, most precious little angel. I think she feels the stress I feel when around my toxic family because she seems to cling to me and not feel comfortable when I am feeling stressed by things they say to me (they think she doesnt understand when they are insulting me or saying terrible things but she understands everything and is very verbal).
With my ex's family, story is a little different- they have been horrible to me and him always--- never acknowledged our engagement, send horrible emails saying they cant wait for us to get a divorce, send highly insulting prejudice emails to me and say everyone can say their opinion and how dare I be insulted,exclude me from invitations to family showers, etc-- all because we have had drama because he has been very abusive. Here again, I want my daughter to have family, but is it reasonable for me to have her see them when they dont even acknowledge me as a person let alone family?
So my question is...is it healthier for her to see them so she is in contact with family and people who can love her, or is it better for her to not be around people who are so toxic to her mother?