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Hello single mommy's. I am having a hard time figuring out what to do so I thought that maybe you ladies could help me out a little with this. I am a single mom of 2 girls. Ages 9 and 10. I work part time and also in school but I took the summer off from classes so that I could work more. Their dad has pretty much washed his hands of the kids. I have not heard anything from him since September of last year. I do receive a little child support from the state though and I am grateful for that. The problem is that I feel lost. I don't feel as if I am getting anywhere with my life. I have been in school forever and although I am thankful, I am so unsatisfied with my $8/hour job. It barely gets me by. I work at a grocery store and I am only available to work during my kids school hours and usually they need more help at night but I don't have a sitter for my children. So some weeks I only end up with about 10 hours because of my limited availability. It has been really hard for me to find a place to work that will work with my schedule. I cannot be at work no earlier than 9:30 and no later than 2:30 so that I can pick my daughters up from school.
The kids are always staying into it with other girls their age in the after school program that I don't feel too comfortable leaving them there most of the time. There has been a lot of bullying, fights, threats and so on that I just don't have a peace of mind with making them go there after school. On the days that they do go, I am usually so worried about whats going on with them that I am not able to focus to much on anything else. Everyday the kids come home telling me about some little girl wanting to fight them and I am so tired of it. This is not the type of environment that I wanted my children to be in so I decided to change my work hours so that I can pick them up from school and bring them straight home to keep down the mess in that program. I have talked with the staff that's over the program but I really have not gotten too far with that. I want to get up on my feet and not have to worry about money so much but I just don't know how. I am receiving a little assistance from the state, food stamps as well as medicaid for the kids, but I feel that I am always going to be stuck in this rut. How do I pull myself out? I don't have a support system at all and whenever I try to talk to a friend they pretty much don't want to hear it because they have their own share of issues that they are dealing with.