my thoughts

[mueller_amanda]

i read a post today that really upset me. Someone was asking for advice and all she got was anger. Isnt it our jobs to suppport the moms here even if we think there in the wrong. I just think theres better ways to approach these post then with anger. All moms even ones who arent single are learning. I learn from my son and our situation everyday. I dont think theres really a correct way to be a single mom. We have no rule book and for the most part we didnt ask for this. I did not wake up one day and say today i want my bd to walk out, ask for a dna and never help me even after going to court. All im saying is please try to remember we are all in the same boat. Lets support each other.

[sallij]

On the other side of the coin, if you post asking for advice, don't get pissy because people don't agree with you. If you're so sure of your decision, there's really no need to ask for advice.

[mueller_amanda]

everyone wants reassurence! Like i said theres no rule book. Lets support each other.

[Danielle17T]

I totally agree with u lately I've seen so many angry responses and I think sum girls are not totally looking for advice just venting or looking for support!

[sallij]

There are always going to be people who do not agree with you, whether it be here or irl. If you can't handle dissent, you probably shouldn't post it. Life is never going to be all sunshine and butterflies.

[mueller_amanda]

wow are you bitter much. Why are you starting a arguement over me asking people to step back and remember we are in the same boat. Theres no reason for the nonsense!

[Danielle17T]

Wow really ur gonna try to fight over this? Seriously y r u so angry??

[Danielle17T]

And I noticed everyone saying at the end of their posts please don't b negative or please no bashing.. shouldn't have to say that life obviously isn't all sunshine& butterfly's but do we need to tear each other down when we're going through similar situations?

[crzctl8de]

I agree with all of the above, but there is a difference between bashing someone and constructive criticism.  When someone asks a sexual related questions and then is called a slut...that's bashing. Asking if you are right and being told you're not without defaming remarks, that's not bashing.  

Some of us on here, have been single mothers for MANY years, we have been through a lot of different things, and different events, that some of the younger people don't have perspective on  yet.  

Reading some of the posts on here, I can normally peg a persons age pretty well...."ummm teenage mentality" springs to mind quite a bit.  We can disagree, but if you want someone to pat your head and go "you're wonderful" talk to someone IRL who will give it to you.  

A lot of us, have been there and done that. 

[sallij]

Clearly, assuming I'm angry and bitter because I disagree with you adds so much credence to your argument. I will not even justify that with discussion of why I am neither of those things.

I still stand by my comment. If you can't handle people disagreeing with you, you probably shouldn't post.

[happymommy1105]

I saw no anger in that post. What I did see was a lot of truth that she didn't want to hear.

Support does not equal hearing what you want.

Sometimes the greatest support we have, is to hear the truth.