I am 37 weeks and suddenly very depressed, crying, alone, scared. Can I do this?
I feel so lonely and I hate to admit it but I feel sorry for myself and jealous of women with husbands who pamper and support them. I have no one to share the ups and downs with...it's so tiring now and my back hurts and i can't sleep. I have no one to talk to who understands me. The problem is that when I feel like this I have no energy and then I don't make the effort to go out or find groups because it seems like too much work and I talk myself out of it with cynical thoughts. Any advise
I found myself feeling the same way you were. Then I had my baby and I felt better. Then I became worried that I wouldn't be able to have a child with a man and truly be able to share that child (since I had my first all to myself).
It's like a huge roller coaster of emotions that sometimes you wish you could slam the breaks on.
Just know that for the next few months, expect the roller coaster to get a little crazier before it gets better. But it does in fact get better.
yes you can do this. i went through my pregnancy alone too. just focus on the positive and all the happiness coming your way. and when you start feeling jealous, just know that everything isn't always greener on the other side. most of the married women i know are single parents when it comes down to it, they just get an extra paycheck to manage.
I understand exactly how you feel, I had a hard time with my first pregnancy my son's father was a complete jerk to me the entire time until i finally left him when my son was 7 months old (which he's not seen his son since). With this pregnancy, different father, but him and i argued alot. Mainly because he was being insensitive while i was pregnant knowing i had feelings for him and was trying to work past it while being pregnant (talk about mission impossible), and he had a woman he cared about. Now i was never with my daughter's father, we were just 'friends', but it was fine at first when i found out i was pregnant. We worked together, but i ended up not talking to him for two months. We patched it up only for two months, and then haven't talked since the beginning of february. He's not called me but has my number, he's not come to visit or see his daughter, but he knows where i live. And left me alone to have his child. So if anyone can sympathize with you i can, i know how it feels to care for someone while your pregnant and they dont' give two shits about you. If it weren't for one of my friends being there for me i would have cracked, so your stronger already than i was. I almost never ask for help because i feel embarassed, its good that you saught help because its hard to go it alone. It will get better eventually, seek out friends here, and if you ever need to talk just message me here.
Is this your first?
I remember when I felt the same way....I was just a couple of weeks away from my due date and I was putting his little clothes away.....It hit me, really, for the first time that there was a real, live, person, in there.....
Some of this is that reality hitting you....I know it sounds silly, after all you've been pregnant for most of a year now! But especially if this is your first, it really doesn't hit you and become real til around the end....
Some of this is your hormones running wild, please understand, your feeling are no less real and valid because they are fueled by the complicated hormonal cocktail running through you....
Please, let you OB know how you are feeling....They can help and refer you to a counselor who can help....
(hug)
Finally tears of happiness.
- tangomamma
on May. 29, 2012 at 9:18 PM