Hi Im new to this Cafe Mom thing...it sounds interesting. I am 39 yrs old, divorced and the mother of 2 teenage boys, one is 18 and one is 15. I was wondering if anyone else out there has teen boys and have the same problems I do getting them to open up and just talk to me. They hide everything, even stuff i wouldnt care about like having a girlfriend. They are so secretive, and when i try to talk to them, they get all defensive and think Im "in thier business". It;s not that, I just wanna know whats goin on in ther lives, Im not trying to pry or be controlling in any way. I just want to b a part of thier lives but they dont understand that. Any other moms out there goin thru this same thing? everyone tells me it will change, its just thier age and they will come around when they get a little older. Dad is in the picture when its convenient for him, but hes not much of a father, he pays no child support and is a total pot head and a bad influence on them. However, I have never tried to keep them away from him or anything. Any advice from anyone on how to just get closer to them? Thanks for reading my post!