Aww, its easier said than done, but try not to stress. In the end, when he's an adult, he'll see that you were always there for him loved him and did what was best. Right now he's getting spoiled by her and loving it, let him enjoy it! :) Its better for him that he loves her than hates her.
Nothing, He's an infant still. He'll see for himself as he gets older.
im kind of going through the same thing with my kids they love the gf and they want to be with them more then me it seems.. im there with ya momma
Its not all that uncommon for a child to form a close bond with a caregiver or someone else in his/her life. Consider this a blessing and a sure sign that he is being taken care of if not spoiled by his father and the new girlfriend. My only advice to you is to continue on the path your on, be strong and consistent with him. The age in which he is at is a fickle one at best. They have a tendency to float towards the parent that has the least disciplinary role with im as well as the one that he does not spend his day to day with. Both of my children that had this problem are still close with the same women. I stayed consistent with them and once the newness and "fun-loving" effect wore off they cooled down a little. It could be that this woman has yet been able to establish herself as an authority figure ( I dont know the situation or how long shes been present) in your sons life and only been able to interact with him on "fun time" basis.
I have also been on the otherside of the spectrum. I was in her position and sometimes its alot easier to be the playmate instead of enduring the fight of being someone they have to listen to and obey. It depends majorly on the trust that you two or rather you three have between each other. I would if at all possible talk to her and find out what type of interactions she has with your son. Like I said before Im willing to be its almost solely on a fun level. Taking that approach seems to make it easier for the child to acclimate himself to the appearance of a new person in his family circle.
Just remember that he still knows whos mommy though he prefers the company of the other woman at the time. The babymoon effect will wear off soon enough especially if she starts to take a more authorative stance with your son. Your baby still loves you this is just an all to common case of the newbie. I also agree with some of the other moms, if you feel your position is being threatened then start making time during the time you have with him to do fun things. Show him that just because hes with you more than this woman and his father that you are still fun but still mommy. I found that even the smallest activities meant the most to my kids in this type of battle.
Remember also that hes going to try to find his own balance in handling all three of you. That will shift like the wind to accomodate his current feelings as well as situations that he may be presented with. Just stay focused and remember your still the only Mommy he has.
Take it for what it is. It's better he likes her than not like her at all. He'll be well taken care of when he's visiting. However, just know that you ARE mom and he knows you're mom and nothing will EVER change that. He's young. He doesn't understand. Just spend time with him and have fun with him when you can.
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- Greenemommy
on Jun. 3, 2012 at 12:21 AM