I am going to start this off with an appology. Im not the best at getting my words that are in my head and heart out the right way. LOL My friends joke that I dont speak english I speak(mynickname)ese. If someone needs an interp or says it better ill help! lol ok here goes.......
I believe that while your dating (not in the very begining though thats the fun get to know you) that it should be a this is how/could be type thing. This is how I would be if we were married. This is how I would treat you as my husband. This is how life would/could be like with me. I don't date just to date. I date with the possibility of marriage in the whatever future. I feel like I don't have the luxury anymore of just dating for the hell of it. I have a child in the mix now. I have to be careful who I bring into his life.
Ive been married I know what happens. Things change after the I dos and first year (in some cases 2) have come and gone. Things settle down a little bit. If they treat you like "I know I should make an effort but I don't wanna, or I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do your JUST/ONLY the....... (whatever they call you)" after you get to the comfortable stage its just going to get worse IF you get to the marriage stage!
Am I wrong? Could someone put this into normal speak? LOL
please dont get me wrong this is the way I feel about myself. Im not holding anyone else to mine or putting you down if there is another point of view.
Just a single mom living my life for my wonderful son!