my name is alexa,im a 22 year old mother of 2 boys (4 and 14 months)and expecting #3 in feb 2013.. i have been with there dad for 6 years, thru hell mostly,things calmed down back in june 2010,and we moved in together the same month our second ds was born...the past few months hes been very selfish,disrespectful,calls me names and tells me that im a piece of sh*t,a horrible mother,etc! i honestly dont know how im expecting #3 cause we have been distant,the times we've spent "good" i considered them hypocritically.hes been telling me most of the time that hes going to find some 1 else who cares about him and will love him,some one who isn't like me and that hes going to move out .. yet i find pictures and convos of woman in his phone and he claims that it was his friends talking to them and that the pictures he sent to his friend but forgot to delete them.. mind u he left on vacation last friday for 2 weeks "alone" to the dominican rep(where his family is) but the fact that he didnt invite me and the kids to meet them gives me doubts!mind u he emptied his hole closet and drawers, there nothing but snow boots here... know for sure he is with woman and cheating,i dont want to catch any disease from him for screwing around,i want to know what u ladies would do?.. he also does not seem to care about me being pregnant.i feel these 2 weeks that he is gone is enough time for me to make a decision, please advise me of what i can do...
IM SO SORRY THIS IS LONG!!
Welcome to cafemom. It sounds like he left for good, but if he didn't when he came back I would let him know that since he already has all of his things with him go find a new place to live. You don't deserve the way he treats you. You know he is not the right man for you. Make sure he pays child support and just let him stay away. His parents might try to get him to bring your kids to where they are at and keep them from you. Be very careful and Good Luck
If you don't like the road you're walking, start paving another one. I know it's easier said than done, but you certainly don't deserve to be treated like crap, and your children also deserve better. If he says he wants someone else, let him leave. He didn't make you, and he sure can't break you!
I hope this helps. :) 
thanks, his mom spoils him(but shes very religious and christian)... the remainig stuff is in a box by my door. i told him and he thought i was lieing till i sent him the picture,and his response was dont worry i will pick up my stuff and move on with my life,theres better woman wjo will appreciae me out there... im trying to let go,keeping my self busy with the kids to keep my mind off of him
Quoting DixieL:Welcome to cafemom. It sounds like he left for good, but if he didn't when he came back I would let him know that since he already has all of his things with him go find a new place to live. You don't deserve the way he treats you. You know he is not the right man for you. Make sure he pays child support and just let him stay away. His parents might try to get him to bring your kids to where they are at and keep them from you. Be very careful and Good Luck
Scared to get out of my comfort zone
- mami1204
on Jun. 13, 2012 at 7:02 PM