My daughter's father changed her last name (to his) without my permission OR her consent... Is this even allowed?!
Neither she nor I found out about it until after the fact... she's been insistent that she neither wanted this nor asked for it. Now she's upset and I'm heartbroken. We went for 6 months without speaking to him, only to find out he did this behind our backs. His reason behind it was completely selfish too: she returned a letter he sent her "return to sender- no such person lives here" because he addressed it to her with his last name instead of mine. He's convinced he's teaching her not to disrespect him or undermine his authority by doing this. How cruel is that? Why would you force your child to take your last name, just to teach her a lesson?!
*I am the custodial parent and she is still a minor. I never received notification or gave him my consent. He's insisting I did. He claims he was able to change it after adding his name to her birth certificate. I wasn't aware that he had added his name to her birth certificate either. He informed me by insisting I register her with his last name when I enrolled her in middle school in the fall. He informed me of this change by phone. I refused to believe him but he insisted I do what he say. Is there any way he could have gotten around to doing this without my knowledge or consent? I didn't want to acknowledge him so I just hung up on him.
*He claims to have found some sort of loophole that allows him to get away with it. I wouldn't put it past him to do something like that either. He's the kind of slime that would've lawyered up and found someone to jump through legal 'hoops' for him. I've always known him to be selfish enough to find some way (if any) to get his way. For now all I have is his word. I intend to do my research and find out what I can. I know now that it is illegal without my permission or his daughter's consent. I'm trying to figure out a way to contest it, if I need to.