I would tell him to knock it off. That the children have little ears and that he needs to leave his comments for when there not around. If it keeps up then start limiting his time with the children. If its court ordered visitation then i would go back to the judge and ask for supervised. If your son will tell you what daddy says then have him tell the judge what daddy says.
It probably won't do any good to talk to him, but you need to tell him that all he's doing is harming your son by badmouthing you. Regardless of what he says, don't ever trash talk bd in front of the kids.
Quoting StephMarie_Mom:
I agree w/the previous comments. He needs to be told to stop, but also don't bad mouth him in front of the kids. And I highly recommend getting a request for supervised visits.
Trytalking to him. Let him know by trash talking you hes hurting his son. My mom trashed my dad growing up and it was awful. Being a kid and feeling guilty for liking my dad because my mom made it feel like it wouldhurt her was awful. It was unfair and no kid wants to hurt their parents. I'll tell you what my dad did, whenever I was upset because of the things my mom said about him he would tell me "Your mom is a good mom and she loves you. Its me shes upset with not you. Nothing your mom or I say will ever change how much we love you." Im 25 years old now my mom still trashes my dad and gets mad when I tell her to shove it. I lost all respect for my mom I love her she gave me life but I dont value her opinons or judgements. I dont even really like her :) My dad however never retaliated, never fed into, and has NEVER once said a bad thing about my mom. He is my best friend and I love and cherish him as much as I do my son. Dont let it get to you. Dont allow your son to talk to you that way of course but dont retaliate if he doesnt agree to be civil. Eventually it will drive your kids away from him. No one wants to be around someone who is negativeall the time especially if they are bad talking his momma who has never said a mean thing in her life! Good luck and Im sorry your in that situation.
Quoting Robsessed98:It probably won't do any good to talk to him, but you need to tell him that all he's doing is harming your son by badmouthing you. Regardless of what he says, don't ever trash talk bd in front of the kids.
Quoting amandaleigh97:Trytalking to him. Let him know by trash talking you hes hurting his son. My mom trashed my dad growing up and it was awful. Being a kid and feeling guilty for liking my dad because my mom made it feel like it wouldhurt her was awful. It was unfair and no kid wants to hurt their parents. I'll tell you what my dad did, whenever I was upset because of the things my mom said about him he would tell me "Your mom is a good mom and she loves you. Its me shes upset with not you. Nothing your mom or I say will ever change how much we love you." Im 25 years old now my mom still trashes my dad and gets mad when I tell her to shove it. I lost all respect for my mom I love her she gave me life but I dont value her opinons or judgements. I dont even really like her :) My dad however never retaliated, never fed into, and has NEVER once said a bad thing about my mom. He is my best friend and I love and cherish him as much as I do my son. Dont let it get to you. Dont allow your son to talk to you that way of course but dont retaliate if he doesnt agree to be civil. Eventually it will drive your kids away from him. No one wants to be around someone who is negativeall the time especially if they are bad talking his momma who has never said a mean thing in her life! Good luck and Im sorry your in that situation.
Quoting 2Myloves:
I dont say anything negative abt him. when my son says he doesnt like me and he likes daddy I tell.him thats ok but I still love you. Ive tried talking to their dad and he says hes not saying anything and he doesnt know where hes picking it up. our agreement is court ordered and thwy refused me supervised visits because when it comes to strangers and strange places my son wont say anything.
Quoting amandaleigh97:Trytalking to him. Let him know by trash talking you hes hurting his son. My mom trashed my dad growing up and it was awful. Being a kid and feeling guilty for liking my dad because my mom made it feel like it wouldhurt her was awful. It was unfair and no kid wants to hurt their parents. I'll tell you what my dad did, whenever I was upset because of the things my mom said about him he would tell me "Your mom is a good mom and she loves you. Its me shes upset with not you. Nothing your mom or I say will ever change how much we love you." Im 25 years old now my mom still trashes my dad and gets mad when I tell her to shove it. I lost all respect for my mom I love her she gave me life but I dont value her opinons or judgements. I dont even really like her :) My dad however never retaliated, never fed into, and has NEVER once said a bad thing about my mom. He is my best friend and I love and cherish him as much as I do my son. Dont let it get to you. Dont allow your son to talk to you that way of course but dont retaliate if he doesnt agree to be civil. Eventually it will drive your kids away from him. No one wants to be around someone who is negativeall the time especially if they are bad talking his momma who has never said a mean thing in her life! Good luck and Im sorry your in that situation.
can u record what they say or have someone record your son when he says these things?
Finally tears of happiness.
- 2Myloves
on Jun. 20, 2012 at 9:59 AM