A month without my son :-(

[ParkersMommy11]

MY childs father was put on child support when Parker was 11 months old he has only seen him a handful of times for a few hours when we were signing the agreement forvisits and stuff we agreed to just go with the standard agreement but he said we would work all the visits out between us and like a dummy a trusted him... it has been a nightmare since then because he wanted the baby the whole weekend right after that and after arguing he agreed to take him for the day and then overnight the next time and now Parker has spent 2 whole weekends with them but now out of no where he texts me to say "oh by the way july 1st we are taking him for the month" my heart sank I was so angry i told him no and i was going to call the attorney general and started to panic but when monday rolled around i called and there is nothing that can be done because it is in the agreement... how do i deal with this a month without my 1 year old baby is so hearwrenching. how could he do this? He did not want anything to do with my son until he had to pay and he makes that very clear he is making me miserable because he now has to pay child support... I have resorted to begging him to do one week with him and send him home for a week for the summer just anything so i dont have to be without my baby for a month and he is not budging... worst thing ever take this as a lesson mommys going through child support proceedings put everything in writing never trust your childs father!! I am at a loss july 1st is so soon!!

[bluebunbun]

Is he a good dad? If not ask if you drop/lower cs can you go to mediation and him have him a lot less time???

[DixieL]

I know what you mean That would have killed me to be without my son for a whole month

[Aimee91]

U get one weekend. Atleast that's how my standard agreement is

[lydi]

 I am so sorry, that sucks. i would be calling him a lot during the month so the child still hears your voice.

[mommaJewels2011]

Omg! That's awful!

[Andrewsmom70]

That's why you have to read everything before you sign it and have your attorney explain if you don't understand.

Sorry you are in this situation. I'd request a change because 1 month away from mom for a 1 year old is way too long. My son is 6 and the longest he's away from me is one week twice in summer and a week at Christmas.

I'd talk to your attorney to see if the agreement can be changed ASAP.

[IWannaLoveAgain]

If its a standard parenting plan, then I would think that the visitation would be agreed upon by both parties. You dont HAVE to let him take your baby for a month. You need to save texts and emails or whatever from him, and dont let him take the baby on July 1.. if he throws a fit, then take your saved texts and stuff and show that you did not agree on the month, and he has stated that he would take him and not give him back until he was ready.. 

You are the Mother, You do hold all the cards. Good Luck Mama!

[faerie75]

You really should have read it before you signed it.

[michiganmom5150]

You should still be able to see him in that month. When exdh has my kids, I get the one night a week thing...

[sucker4myloves]

Tell him no and see what happens. He can't physically remove the baby from you, can he?