Sticky situation

[JannaRN99]

I'm torn and could use some opinions (not judgement) on something. A little background: I have a friend I would consider close to being a best friend. I met her brother at Christmas and we hit it off. We went to the local bar to play darts one night and she freaked about it. I've never been sure if it was because he was going with me, or because she wanted him to stay home and hang out with her. He lives in another state (originally from here) and was just here visiting. We have stayed in contact ever since but have kept it to ourselves. Feelings are getting stronger and he may be moving back after Christmas to be close to his family again. My friend is very protective of her brother even though he is older. I feel guilty for not telling her, but honestly was scared to death to tell her after her reaction at Christmas.
I guess I just don't know what I'll do if he moves back.

[Gina_C]

Well if you guys are as close of friends as you say, then I would talk to her about it. Imagine how she would feel if she found out and it wasn't from you. I know some people would probably say its none of her business what you or her brother does, however I feel like if you value the friendship you should tell her. Or at least ask her why she freaked about it to begin with.

[JannaRN99]

I definitely want him and I to be the ones to tell her. I hate to keep this from her...I really didn't think it would get this far. I would hope if she loves me as much as she says she does she wouldn't freak out too much. But who knows?

[IreneCarroll]

bump

[Gina_C]

True, who knows lol. However I think the sooner you get it over with the sooner you guys can deal with it and move on

[Gina_C]

I mean I would go into the situation with the mindset that she is already going to be upset because you have hidden from her this long. So I would be prepared for that

[smilelovesmile]

     I told my 'best friend' i liked her brother and she was 'sssoooooo excited' and we actually clicked and fell in love. We were engaged and have a beautiful 10 month old. She played happy best friend and future sister in law until i got pregnant and since then she has told me she never wanted him to go on that first date and that she figured he would never like me.

     So be wary from the first freak out but love can overcome alot!

GOOD LUCK!!!!

[mommynac]

My friend's brother was interested in me at one time. She told me point blank that it freaked her out. We were really close. I would probably ask her to see what her feelings are about it. I would also consider if it's worth dating him if she's not on board. I decided it wasn't worth the risk (and I'm glad I did) but she may actually surprise you! Good luck.

[Jeni1124]

Be honest with the friend. Always. There may be a real reason she's acting like that.

[Mommyto2LilMen]

I would just talk to her and see if there is a reason she is so skeptical about this. 

[Robsessed98]

I think you should talk to her about it.  To me, keeping your friendship or relationship secret is almost lying to her.