With him finding a new place, why are you worried?
Quoting SinceresMomma:
It'll get easier and you not be soo overwhelmed. Make sure you take time out for yourself once in a while.
With him finding a new place, why are you worried?
Quoting SinceresMomma:
It'll get easier and you not be soo overwhelmed. Make sure you take time out for yourself once in a while.
With him finding a new place, why are you worried?
Quoting JannaRN99:
I've been resentful for years with my marriage with being the bread winner, the cheerleader and basically busting my ass working and taking care if the family. The resentment has been towards my husband, not the kids BTW. Now that we are over and he's looking for a new place to live I'm worried. I've always done so much and now I know I'll be doing even more when he's gone. I'm tired...I'm tired of being sad, tired of always worrying, tired of having to work so much. What I'm wondering is if anyone has felt this way and how you've gotten past it? Maybe because we are splitting and it's all so new is why I'm feeling overwhelmed...I don't know. My mind is constantly going and going. I want peace and happiness and to be a good mom. I feel like I'm falling short of being a good mom because I'm so stressed all the time.
I SO feel your pain. When I was married to my ex I did everything - from cooking to lceaning to doing yard work. My ex was worthless as a DH. He would try and fix thing when I asked him to. Otherwise, he could care less about anything except what was on tv or his computer. The only time I got him off the couch was to go to the mall, a movie or out to dinner. He was a loner and disliked making new friends. We never had extra money to go and do things. I've been used to doing things on my own. I have a contract that can fix what I can't. Otherwise, I figure it out on my own.
I would not worry about him finding his own place. He's a big boy and it's time he moved on and did things on his own. He will appreciate the fact that you did everything when you were together. Now he has to cook and clean. DOn't be sad about your new life. You left him. You knew it was over. If you can try and get the kids to help out with chores. You will find more time for you and you can actually relax. Moreso be less stressed out. Don't allow your mind to go and go. Allow others to help you out. You are a good mom. You have been for a very long time.
Sounds like some depression. Suggesting talking to a Psych could do some good?
Quoting JannaRN99:
He only really contributes to two of our major bills, so I'm not sure what I worry so much about. The one thing is when the kids are on my last nerve I still have him around to take over. Then again, when he's gone I may be happier and have more patience with the kids. I'm in therapy so I'm sure that will only help me in the long run as well :-)
Quoting SinceresMomma:
It'll get easier and you not be soo overwhelmed. Make sure you take time out for yourself once in a while.
With him finding a new place, why are you worried?
I can totally relate. Someone once told me (and it has stuck with me) that the way you know you are a good mom is when you question IF you are a good mom. It saddens me that you are going through this because I know how difficult it can be. However, you will see that it DOES get easier with time and you will realize how strong you really are. When day to day seems too difficult, concentrate on getting through each hour. You CAN and WILL get through this!!
Quoting flsinglemomof2:I can totally relate. Someone once told me (and it has stuck with me) that the way you know you are a good mom is when you question IF you are a good mom. It saddens me that you are going through this because I know how difficult it can be. However, you will see that it DOES get easier with time and you will realize how strong you really are. When day to day seems too difficult, concentrate on getting through each hour. You CAN and WILL get through this!!
It is hard at first, but honestly, you will find your routine and it will work for you!!!
Woohoo, we've decided to file for divorce
- JannaRN99
on Jun. 25, 2012 at 12:51 AM