It's about my bf and his baby mama... I need some input.
Normally, I don't post personal information but I need some advice from some single mamas.
The background: Long story short, I was looking for a room to rent and found one on Craigslist. The guy was super awesome and months later we started to see each other romantically. This is not in either of our character and we kept quiet about it for months. Please understand and don't pass judgement - we would have never done this if we didn't think this was IT. I wouldn't of taken a chance if I didn't think I wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with this man.
He has 3 girls, under the age of 8. He usually had them most of the time. Since I live here in his house already, it's kinda weird because we are seriously dating but we don't show anything in front of the kids. It's not time yet.
Well the baby mama found out about us of course. We openly dated in front of her family, his family, and any mutual friends - all adults. The baby mama threatened to take the kids away and he would see them only every other weekend. He of course got super upset since up until this point, we had his kids with us most of the time. His baby mama got mad and is making rules for "our" house saying the kids can never be left alone with me again, and that his oldest and my dd can't sleep together. If they do sleep together, it's because we all like to sleep in the living room it's never as if they are alone or anything bad. They're kids and it's summer time and they live together. They reversed the schedule around and now she has the kids more. She's never had a problem with me before this.
So last night my bf told his oldest that whatever happens in our house, stays in our house. He told her to not tell her mom the truth - that if she sleeps with my dd, we can't let her mom know. He's afraid if his dd doesn't lie, that the bm will try and take the kids away.
I feel freaking awful. First the baby mama wants to make rules, but whatever she's the mom and I'll never disrespect or talk bad about her. But now he's making the oldest dd lie to her mom? I am not comfortable at all! They never had drama really until I came along and it's probably because I'm the first serious gf since her.
I'm going to have a talk later with him tonight but I don't know a solution to the problem... which is why I'm posting to single moms that have to deal with their BD.
Anyone have advice they can give me from the baby mama point of view?